Names please for the lady-bits

[BlueCloud1973]

OK I have a 4 year old boy and have recently had a girl. My boy is asking questions about her lady-bits and I'm not sure what to refer to them as....
'Fanny' seems a bit crass, 'vaj' a bit cheap, etc etc you get my drift. Any suggestions on names for this body part gratefully recieved!

I didn't think you were allowed to say that word on MN

Vulva.

I agree with the poster upthread who pointed out we don't have euphamisms for any other body part.

I think we should not have euphamisms for our genitals. There is nothing wrong or rude about them, but the very act of finding something else to call them because heaven forbid we should call them by their actual name... is giving children the message that there is something wrong with that body part.

The day I hear someone refer to their nose as their sniffywoowoo, I shall tell my children about winkies and min mins.

At the moment the dcs use wee-wee and bottom, as for them that's relates to their function but as time progresses that won't be sufficient.

I agree with Hogsback re penis and more so with vulva: "Why do the sex organs merit Latin and Greek when you are happy to use the vulgar English names for other parts of the body?" but otoh, to use a coy nickname feels so twee.

Out of interest are vulva and penis the terms used in primary sex ed?

But just to make clear, wont be going with the anglo-saxon either

But had to look askance when a mw kept referring to my "flower" - even medical professionals shy away

we used "bum" (front or back if needed further clarification), untill quite recently untill dd asked a question about babies etc, so since then she has seemed to naturaly progressed to useing vagina and bum. she is alomost 5 and seems right at her age she begins to learn a little about anatomy.

strangly enough she has been reffering to her tummy as intestines recently too, since we had a conversation about bowels and poo. very literal child.

I hate the sound of all slang for female organs. my mother did not assign any name to ours, but that was because she was a bit prudish with this sort of thing so would preffer to use correct names.

I think at 4 you can either say bum, bottom etc if you dont find a word you like but also can use anatomic names.

Kangaroocaught - yes, in primary schools, body parts are given their proper names from Year 1.

DD2 and I shared a bath yesterday after she was threw up everywhere, and she asked when she will have breasts and hair on her wee-wee, so I thought excellent, I'll drop in the correct terminology and used the term 'vulva'. Ds1, hovering and making noises like "gross", pricked up his ears, asked if he was going to get a Volvo too when older. DH, clearing up sicky mess, said not until he got a job and could afford it. DD looked down at herself and said, "Save up for it? It looks like a money box. No mummy, it's a wee-wee."

Thanks Littlefish

@Hogsback

"If not, why not? Why do the sex organs merit Latin and Greek when you are happy to use the vulgar English names for other parts of the body?"

Well, I'd be happy to use 'cunt', but I'm not sure how well that would go down if DD used the term at pre-school...

Kitten.