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advice needed:5 yr old sons bad behavoiour

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Boogiemumma · 23/01/2011 16:05

Hi All
New on here s hello and hope you can offer some sage advice. I'm going potty at the moment and quite distressed about how bad my 5 yr old son's behaviour has got recently. He has the most god awful tantrums that are getting more and m ore frequent combined with violence towards me in particular - kicking hitting punching and the tantrums usually are over the smallest of issues, i.e. his sleeve covering his watch. Myself and my husband try and deal with him calmly - talk to him use time out where needed but it seems to have no impact the tantrums are just getting worse. Today I had to leave softplay with him as him was hitting other children, I was mortified and so ashamed it's just not his usual nature. He is a boisterous boy but usually friendly and affectionate.
I've tried to think what could be impacting his behaviour - I am pregnant at the moment but he is pleased about this and I have taken time to remind him that he is very loved and let him know without saying as much that the baby is not a threat to him but that his role as big brother is very important. Myself and my husband have been arguing a small amount and I know this won't help my son. I have talked to school and his behaviour seems ok there. I don't know what else could be having this effect on him and am despairing about how to go about managing it. Positive reinforcement of good behaviour alongside time out talking about bad behaviour - loss of privilege does not seem to be working. Sorry for the epic ramble but I am in so much need of some guidance and advice.
Thanks for listening.

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fostering · 23/01/2011 20:18

Just in case the pregnancy is worrying him, or to find out if that is the problem, choose books from the library that you can read to him to help prepare him and allow for a discussion re the new baby.
Star chart for every day when he behaves, small prize when he has 5 or 10 stars.
Lots of cuddles for reassurance that he is loved.
Plenty of praise for even the smallest things like brushing his teeth nicely, being ready for school on time, good manners.

Boogiemumma · 23/01/2011 21:54

Thank you x

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Kiwiinkits · 23/01/2011 23:38

Lack of nutrients in a child's diet can be a source of poor behaviour. Does your son eat more than five servings of veges or fruit a day?

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