I this to harsh a punishment?

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

I think it probably is but im so croos with DS1 (6)
Him and his borther (4) both got a second hand DS each for christmas and a handfull of games.

DS2 adores Mario and it is his thing to play it, he really enjoys it.

Anyway DS1 has now lost 3 games )all Mrio ones) by ripping them out the console and throwing them in temper, when he can't get his way about something.

The first 2 games he had the DS banned for a week at a time and now this morning he has done it for a thrid time.
All the Mario games are gone DS2 is really upset.
I cannot find them, I wasn't in the room when they were thrown and DS1 'can't' remeber where he threw them.

I am so cross that he simply doesn't seem to be able to look after things.
I have again confiscate dhis DS and sent him to his room but I have a good mind to take the DS and trade it in to replace DS2's games. I guess that is to harsh a punishment though. WWYD?

yup, that's harsh. I'd try some anger management techniques with him. The games can be frustrating, especially when things go wrong but he needs to learn to control his frustration. Would time out work for him? If you encourage him to take a break when he feels himself getting annoyed then this may help?

I probably wouldn't trade it for more games, but keeo it until he finds all three games - they must be somewhere if he's thrown them indoors. Can you afford to buy another Mario game for DS2 that DS1 isn't allowed to play?

No I can't afford another game unfortunatley. I think DS2 will be ok with another game we have.
I think I will definatley hold onto his DS until the games are found.
He isn't getting frustrated that he can't do the games he is getting frustrated becuase I have asked him to hand the game to DS2 as its his turn to play.

There are so amyn places they could have gone, my flat is huge and full of nooks and crannies.

A big flat is no reason for him not to look!

Oh right. I still wouldn't exchange it though. Are you giving him time to get to the end of the level and save before telling him times up?

TBS - I would just keep the console until he finds the games. Your flat maybe huge with lots of nooks & crannies - but there's still a limit to where they can be if he threw them! It will 'focus his mind' as to where he threw them if you tell him he's not having his DS back until they're found!

Yes they have 2 15 minute goes each, alternating.
I have a timer set up and will regaurly say 'DS you have enough time to finish and save' 'DS there is 5 minutes left on the clock' adn he knows what 5 minutes is he is used to timed based things.

He is looking, but he cannot get it into his head to look where he was at the time so is now looking through the toy boxes even though it won't be there.

I have told him to look under sofas/chairs/beds ect but he hasn't quite grasped looking properly yet.

I have packed the DS away and put it on a high shelf, he has been told its not coming down until the games are found.

Sounds like he's panicking. Have you told him to retrace his steps?