Normal things to say or should I be worried?

[icarriedawatermelon2]

DS is just 3 years olds.

Recently he has started saying a few things which really concern me.

Firstly if he snaches a toy from his brother he will say in respose to me saying "No Tom, that's not nice" "I LIKE SNATCHING!"

I have heard him say "I want a new daddy/mummy"
"I don't love you" to his brother.

When we ask if he has had a good day at nursery he says "I'm naughty I push!"
The nursery say he has been good, the odd typical 3 year old biy moment, but very good generally.

When I say "your such a lovely boy" he will sometimes say "No, I'm not nice!"

We have moved him to a new nursery this week as we feel that it is too large and he has come home with lumps and bumps which the staff often didn't knowing how they happenend.

Feel very sad he has such low opinion of himself. He can be so kind and gental to others and love his close friends although can be a bit OTT sometimes.

WWYD?

Can you play games with him where he gets to be 'naughty'? But be clear it is a game. Eg play 'mine, mine, mine' snatching over a toy and then giggle and say 'oh YOU have it'. I think he is just playing around with the idea of being 'naughty'. Nothing to worry about IMVHO.

Thanks for reply Adair. Not sure if he would understand though??

Ds is 2.5 and fairly sure he understands pretending and playing roles... though I am a drama teacher so lots of imaginative play in our house!! Am reading PLayful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen at the moment which advocates pretty much everything I am passionate about re playing and experimenting and engaging with kids.

I would probably just keep going with the 'oh I know SOMETIMES you do naughty things don't you? But you're lovely really ' big kiss approach too.

He is just working out who he is - and yes, I know the being a bit OTT with people he loves .

I accidentally trimed his skin whilst cutting his nails this evening. Whilst crying in daddys arms (I was seriously rejected!) he said "I want to hurt your finger mummy!" in between sobs! :(

Aw, that's because he was CROSS. that's ok! He needs to know it's ok to be a cross little boy sometimes ! Maybe try and give some of the feelings a name..?

honestly, this is normal and nothing to worry about. Dont take it too seriously!

I remember ds1 at this age saying i like being naughty mummy, you're a horrible mummy, and once when in a shop and annoyed at me i want to get
a knife and cut you in half. Now that
was embarrassing!

At the time i did worry, but looking back he didnt really know what he was talking about. Now at 4.7 he is much more logical, wants to please and the other day was upset because he "never wants to do any naughty things". He also wanted his
brother to live somewhere else at this age, but now absolutely loves him.

Oh thank-you! He has told me lots of times that we should send his brother back to the doctors.

LOL fattybum cut you in half!