my normally sweet, kind 3.5yr old daughter turns into a monster

[busyhappymummy]

Hi, I am new on the site and I am hoping that someone can give me some ideas of how to manage my dd. She is 3.5 yrs old, and normally very sweet, thoughtful, kind, playful little girl. About once a day she turns into a monster, kicking, hitting and screaming at me. It usually lasts for 30 mins, sometimes longer. Then it just subsides. I have tried many many things. I do not believe in smacking so that is probably the only thing I have not tried. She doesn't do it to anyone else, just me. I would love to know any ideas of why it might be happening, and how I can manage it.

Check basic needs first
-tired
-hungry/thirsty
-needs a wee

When you talk to her about it, what does she say?

Welcome, by the way :)

you are not alone a 2 n half dd sound exact same so cute n sweet then of she goes, a just ignore mine as if a give her a reaction she gets worse a dont believe in hittin either so what else can u do x :)

no clever ideas here, but I'm glad its not just mine! I try to ignore it

When my DD (nearly 3) needs a poo, we have 1/2 an hour or so of teeth gritting and hyperactive violence. Once she has cleared her bowels, all is sweetness and light. We try suggesting the toilet to her when she first starts kicking off, but until she decides it is 'time' there is not much we can do but bear with it and try not to antagonise her and make things worse.

Not sure that is much help - but you might find it is a similar thing. I'm REALLY hoping my DD grows out of it in her own..

Hi there I have a 3.5 year old that has been acting up as well. She has been pinching staff when put time out and from what I have been told she refuses to sit for story time and is being disruptive at nursery, she is always on the go and has also been pitching, kicking, screaming, punching other kid and they seem to think that something might be wrong with her like ocd, adhd or autism etc.. you name it. But the problem is that she is not like this at home she can be so sweet like kisses and cuddles. She likes to write, stories and crafts etc she is even starting to write abc etc she knows all shapes, abc and recognise all the letters and colours and the nursery think she is bright but I cannot understand why she behaves so badly there. Anybody with some advice would be so much appreciated. She has been going to some toddler group since 9 months and has never ever kicked pinched a child and she plays with a little girl same age as her nicely has never hit her. So why is she behaving this way there. I am tired of being told of every bad thing she gets up to. Please help