Behaviour/star chart

[swanny1969]

Hi, I hope you can help, my 7 year old is trying my patience, she is not naughty so to speak and an angel at schoool, but at home she is rude, ignores me, stroppy, and generally not very nice to be around at the moment, just getting ready for school wears us all out. She is a strong willed character and can be very persuasive.
I feel I need some sort of chart or reward system, for good behaviour but dont know where to start, does anyobe have any good ideas that might work. It needs to be easy and uncomplicated. As I said she is not 'naughty' just tiring and I feel if I dont nip it in the bud now it could get worse.
Many thanks

Much to her disgust I am trying to stop her from sitting in fromt of the tv watching the american programs all the time (Hannah Montanna, Icarley etc!>

Hi,

Ok, so your focus first of all is getting ready for school and the end reward needs to be something you're both happy but she should be choosing - perhaps some hannah montana or ideally quality time e.g 30 min baking with you!?

Break the getting ready in morning into small stages e.g dressed, breakfast, teeth brushed, school bag ready, school on time and smile for you! This could be written and decorated on A4/A3 paper and put up on her wall / front door.

It needs to be achievable/realistic and you will need lots of praise in the beginning. If there are 5 mini stages for eac day then that's 25 in a school week. So you could say if she achieves 20 she gets her reward. 25 bonus reward. The reward chart can be as simple or as artistic as you want - 25 squares to be ticked or 25 hannah montana stickers etc.

You could share this idea with her class teacher and they'll be happy to praise her for her organisation and being helpful for mummy.

Is this helpful? A week with loads of praise and repetition and not giving her rewards when she doesn't deserve it should work...