My lovely daughter seems very angry - advice?

[luckykitty]

My DD is a month old, she is healthy and lovely but seems to have quite a lot of uncontrollable rage

I was determined to BF but have hit a stumbling block as she is so impatient and gets so worked up when even remotely hungry that she screams and screams and took a chunk out of my nipple with her almightly suck, now I have had a blocked duct in the other nipple and when fed her today she had a hissy fit and sucked the hell out of me causing the v.painful bit to bleed :(
Im expressing and she is having bottles as its just too painful to get her any where near me at the minute which makes me really sad.
I have been giving her infacol as she suffers with lots of trapped wind and its helping as she now burps a lot and has stopped getting hiccups as much but have had to cave in and give her a dummy as she is only happy and quiet when sucking :(
In the evening she has been screaming for hours, proper hysterical-breaks-your-heart screaming, and now she wont settle in her cot (cue more hysterical screaming) and is ending up in bed with us.

Any ideas about any of this? This is our first child, she is gorgeous and we love her beyond belief, I guess Im just afraid we are doing something wrong because she shouts so much at us :(

Thank you lots.

Sounds like colic, what does the health visitor/ gp say? Nothing you are doing (1st rule of parenting don't take anything personally when it comes to babies!!) Might have reflux as well, I would get her checked out and take to a breast feeding counsellor re the issues with feeding. Is there a support group locally you could go to?

I'd second the advice to go and see a b/feeding counsellor and let then see you feeding as you might find it's frustration that she's not getting your milk quick enough/too quickly. If everything's OK there and you're absolutely certain it's not wind (when I look back to my DS1 I can see now the few pats I gave to bring up a little burp were most likely just the first in a long line that the poor boy couldn't get up on his own , then it might be worth looking at your own diet - spicy foods, onion etc can irritate a baby or it could be a dairy or lactose intolerance - don't forget whatever you eat your LO does too.
Hope you find the answer but in any event, rest assured your baby doesn't even understand the concept of cross and crying baby most definitely does NOT mean unhappy or bad tempered child

Hey, dont be so hard on yourself, sounds very tough. Sounds to me like she's not latching on properly making your nipples sore? Try and get a proper BF person to see you latch her on.

It is very common for them to be unsettled, especially in the evenings. 'witching hour (or hours)' as my husband used to call it with our babies.

Try & get a break away from her every day - nothing dramatic, just go for a 10 min walk or something, and try to get outside with/without her every day too, so you dont go completely round the twist.

You're doing a great job anyway, getting all that lovely breast milk for her, hope you get the feeding sorted.

how on earth can you describe a month old cry "hysterical screaming" !

Have you considered seeing a cranial osteopath? They have quite a high (anecdotal) success rate with unsettled babies and babies with digestive problems. May be worth a shot.

Hi, sounds just what i went through with my last baby; my son. I looked forward to him so much and such an easy time with my two previous babies..it came as quite a shock! Turned out to be reflux and once we had sorted the feeding issues through lots of tears, he settled. I wish i had sought advice from a feeding specialist. Bad experience with HV, whole experience led to depresson also. Benefit of hindsight... you are dong the right thing but posting in the first place. Hope that helps x

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