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Please can anyone help with out of control 3yo?

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ohwoeisshe · 19/01/2011 00:19

My friend is having real trouble with her DS (3). His behaviour has become increasingly more difficult over the last year and my friend doesn't know where to turn.

He hits, bites and pushes all his friends around and doesn't understand when he has really hurt someone (which happens often). It has got to the point where no-one wants to spend time with him any more.

He's not a bad boy, he just doesn't know that he is doing anything wrong.

He is incredibly active and cannot sit still even after lots of physical activity. He is completely non-stop and doesn't seem to get tired, just more wound up instead.

His speech is not too bad for his age, but probably could be a little better and this may add to his frustration.

His diet is great, no sweets or sugary foods making things worse.

I don't know how to help her, she tells me she is exhausted with it all and needs help. She really does look at her wits end.

I'm not sure how much praise she gives him or whether she always treats him negatively. I hear occasional encouragement, but not very much.

Obviously I can't say that to her, so was wondering if there are any books that I can recommend (without offending her) or any websites that may help her.

Does anyone have any ideas to help her?

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CaptainNancy · 19/01/2011 17:05

Bumping for you.

hab35 · 19/01/2011 18:13

Hi ohwoeisshe,
I don't know about books, but I found myself in a similar position with my 3yo ds a few months ago and I went into our newly-opened local Sure Start Children's Centre. I would highly recommend suggesting to your friend that she contact the local SureStart group, they have been enormously helpful to me, supporting me and giving access to resources and parenting advice and courses.
I just dropped into the centre on the off chance that they could help and they immediately made me tea and played with my son whilst I blubbed about all my stresses. Which was helpful in itself of course! HTH!

ohwoeisshe · 19/01/2011 20:50

That sounds great thank you! I'll look one up for her and pass it on. I think the chance for her to talk to someone about it would be a really good idea. I could also make it sound like somewhere to go rather than me giving her 'advice'! Brilliant Smile

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