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tantrums at 14 months?

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teenyanne · 17/01/2011 13:12

My dd seems to have started having tantrums already. In the most recent incident, I took her shoes off her because she was licking the sole and no amount of trying to stop her or distraction stopped her trying to lick the soles of her shoes (which by the way have been outside and on dirtyish floors). She screamed because I took them off her and then was inconsolable for about 10 minutes, the usual distractions didn't work - toys, singing, jumping up and down - and I tried to soothe her, but she continued to sob.

The tantrums don't seem to be related particularly to tiredness, hunger or over-stimulation.

Do I just let her cry and learn that she doesn't always get her own way? (I hate the idea of leaving her to just cry it out). Any strategies for managing this? I wasn't ready for tantrums just yet!

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WinterChillita · 17/01/2011 13:18

DD is a good tantrum-er and she started at about 14 months. We did baby signing which gave her the means to tell us some things and I reckon stopped some tantrums. When she did have a meltdown I'd explain what was going on and that I understood why she was angry and then I'd leave her to scream. Once she'd settled down a bit I'd go back and give her cuddle and explain what just happened and we'd carry on. It wasn't fun leaving her to it but she didn't want cuddles so there's not much more we can do. We used to sit her on the doormat so she was out of the way. She's 2.2 now and regularly takes herself off to the mat when she's having a sulk
That's what worked for us though, I think a time-out without an audience works wonders!

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teenyanne · 17/01/2011 13:50

I'll try letting her just cry it out, then cuddle her and see if that works - when I tried to cuddle her while she was screaming, she just wriggled out of my arms, so there's prob not much other option but to let her get it out her system.

She's quite communicative already, and I think the tantrums come when we won't let her do what she wants (although we know exactly what it is she is wanting)!

And I like the idea of having a sulking place, I shall try that, thank you.

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