Rude 4yo

[bellaboo22]

anyone got any ideas how to deal with Rudness?
since starting school dd has been full of it! Stupid and idiot being favourites at the moment. We have spoken so many times about how its rude, upsets people etc, explained ways which is acceptable to talk, tried punishing her but nothings getting through.
she used to be so polite, now she thinks its funny to call people pooh head and tell them she's going to cut their heads off
any one been through it and got some tips?
Thanks in advance.

yes been there on that one my dd did it when she first started school. did the same as you are doing persisted with it and soon it seemed to pass.
just waiting for it to start with my son who has just started school.
(just chuckling to my self with pooh head, my dd said pooh pooh head, just brought it all back)
claire

we're right there too, with DD who started school in September. SHe is more in the answering back thing, plus using the word 'bloody' ( thanks DH!) a lot. We have had several quite serious chats with her and have been rewarding and punishing accordingly - no tv, toys taken away, treats cancelled. very slowly, it seems the message might be sinking in. it's exhausting sticking to our guns but hopefully will pay off.
good luck!

I am smiling because I remember when DD did this. It does pass, mind you, she is 14 now and much, much worse, with all her teenage angst.I remember when she said, when she was 5, if we won the lottery she would chop off her dad's head with a big sword It is now a family classic
I just used to ignore it, they soon stop doing it, when you don't react. They move onto the toilet fascination shortly, pooh nad wee and even the word 'toilet' will have them in stitches.

Thanks ladies, we already had the pooh, wee, boobies hysterics lol thats seemd to have passed, for now atleast
I did wonder if I was bringing to much attention to it and should try and ignore it.

ignoring is not an option sometimes tho don't you think, as it makes them think you regard it as acceptable? I can't ignore it when my 4yo dd answers back and does that cheeky, rude talking back thing. i don't know what to do, but i don't want to ignore it? she winds me up soooooo much

I still say ignore and change the subject, point out the window, do anything except acknowledge what they ahve just said. It will soon stop when they realise that you don't react to it. I think it is important, as well, to model how how you would like your child to behave. Children do learn by example.
Except if they are rude to other people, then you must tell them off.

DS is exactly the same. I can't ignore it - it's rude. I tell him I don't want to hear him say those words and if he persists and can't say anything nice and he should go into another room until he can talk nicely.

The message does seem to be getting through - albeit slowly.

My favourite is telling people that they are "weenuts". Can only have come from school as it's not something I'd dream of saying to describe his willy/balls.

We ignored our daughter being rude at around this age, but ignoring it didn't work. After she'd called both her grandparents and the window-cleaner stupid, we decided that we couldn't let our daughter go round insulting people while we waited for the ignoring to work. Not nice for the other people, to see you do nothing. So we introduced sanctions (can't remember what) and it soon stopped.