I am a first time mum, my daughter is 18 months, she is so hyper active, when she was new born she only napped twice a day and wouldnt cuddle or lay in her moses basket, she liked to lay on a matt and look around, she's always got frustraited when she wants to do something and cant, her speech is very advanced for her age, she is so independant, when i go to baby group, other children her age seem to sit on their mums lap and enjoy the singing, not my daughter, she never wants to cuddle, or sit still, she just refuses and before i know it i have a major tantrum on my hands, she only naps once a day since ten months now and we put her to bed at 8 but recently she hasnt wanted to sleep till 9 but still wakes up early. We think she should be tired but she is wide awake and chatting. She is so grizzly pretty much all day, i play with her and she throws things, i try to read to her and she throws books or wants to read herself, i try do crafts with her and sing nursery rhymes too, im sure im doing enough to mentally stimulate her but im loosing my mind with how strong willed and grizzly she is. This mornin she refused breakfast. My husband thinks there is something wrong with her, i try so hard to make her happy but i just cant win. Have i hit the terrible two's early or is she just really intelligent? What am i doing wrong? I get upset coz she wont cuddle me, she says 20 words plus very clearly but doesnt seem to every say mummy. She never seems to be calm, could she have adhd? We have had some trouble recently with my step daughter, she was violent and kicked the front door glass in, i had to call the police as she was abusive and aggressive, she is no longer allowed to come near me as a restraining order contract has been drawn up, i cant help feel that as much as ive tried to protect my daughter, my step daughters terrible behaviour may have affected my daughter and this may be some of the problem?.