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17 mo throwing stuff

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bitzermaloney · 10/01/2011 19:50

Ds2 is obviously testing me at the moment and his favourite thing the past few weeks has been to pick up hard objects and lob them randomly, especially when he's cross/frustrated. I can't ignore it as he's hurt his older brother chucking things at him. I can't seem to distract him enough, in that when I draw his attention to another toy he throws that too, or if nothing's to hand he comes over and hits me.

My tactic has been to say loudly 'NO THROWING, Mummy will take it away' when he lifts something into the throwing position and looks at me to see what I'll do. Then when he throws it I do take it away. I've tried taking stuff out of his hands when he lifts it up to throw, but then he just goes for something else or again, hits me. Just occasionally he will respond to the warning and put his arm down again, but rarely.

Everything I've read on here suggests he is too young for time out or the 'naughty step'. Never had to deal with this before as ds1 was/is very gentle.

Any advice appreciated!

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LargeGlassofRed · 10/01/2011 19:55

I have had exactly the same thing with dt1.
I've been doing the a version of time out for the last week or so and the throwing has really reduced.
I say "no throwing" then sit him down facing away from me, only for about a min, which is long enough, seams to be working well at the moment. Smile

maltesers · 10/01/2011 19:59

I can only suggest you catch him as quickly as possible , as soon as you sense he is going to chuck something and grab his arm, saying very firmly, "NO, you do not throw toys", looking stern and cross. Then remove the object he has in his hand. Then distract and remove from situation asap. If he hits you you say the same thing "NO NO ! you do not hit mummy !"

Its not easy and harder when in the actual situation. Its important he doesnt hurt others though. . .
Wishing you luck with you darling little devil. !!!
He is still a baby and its all normal behaviour in the toddler stage especially .
He will grow out of it, sooner rather than later if you try your best to nip it in the bud.

bitzermaloney · 10/01/2011 20:05

Thanks. I will try removing him away from the situation - is hard though as he is a persistent little monster boy and won't stay still when put somewhere unless actually asleep.

Can't believe how different he and ds1 are. He's like the Tasmanian Devil.

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