Hyperactive boys and their siblings

[MrsTyrrell]

I have a 6 year old (nearly 7) who is incredible hyperactive, rude to me and his dad, thinks he knows the lot and is really starting to grate on my last nerve! What can I do. He has a brother who is 2 and a half and doesnt talk much. Even though his brothers speach is obviously behind other children of his age he is starting to copy my eldests stupid ranting noises, screams and annoying wingeing. I need to stop this now before my youngest turns into the class clown like his brother!
Is it us as parents that are causeing this unnatural behaviour?
Does anyone else have the same or similar problem with their boys or are mine just freaks?

You need to lay down the law to him, punish him for when he's naughty and maybe he'll start learning right from wrong.

You're right, things need to change before your younger son starts to catch on to this behaviour.

I would say that children are born to be the way they will be, and as parents, we only have about %20 influence over them. But that 20% needs to count in a positive way. By this I mean helping naturally shy children come 'out of thier shell'. Getting bad sleepers to sleep properly, and trying to tame wild rambuncious children. So it's not all you fault, you eldest would likley be difficult to keep in line, even with the greatest parenting in the world. So don't beat yourself up- but as you have done, recognise the problem and start to try and think of ways that you can discipline him, because that %80 percent natural ball of energy will turn into a %100 deviant if you don't influence him in a more effective way. Children who are hyperactive are difficult and tiring, and respond well to very firm rules and routines and absolute consistency when it comes to discipline. If you don't like listening to him whinging, then make it a rule that you will not listen to or respond to him when he whinges. Other than to remind him to speak properly. The same goes for screaming and being rude. Tell him the way you would like him to speak to you, give him an example " i would like you to say that like this...". Tell him you are no longer going to accept his rudeness and if he is rude to you, tell him so, and tell him tht you aren't going to listen to him, tell him that if he contines to be rude he will lose something ( any privelage, tv time, sweets, computoer time etc" enrol him in any afterschool clubs, so he can burn off excess energy. My eldest is very hyperactive, and if I didn't keep him under very tight reins, he too would be out of control, so i know how draining it is. My younger children are not like this, as they were not born that way inclined, it doesn't occur to them to be wild and crazy. So don't let other parents make you think it is all you. Some children just are naturally Hyper. But you CAN make life more bearable. Be clear, be consistent, give clear boundaries and make time out to 'excersise him' ( ie go to the park- let him run around ).

Believe me, I do lay down the law. He knows that mummy is boss but he also knows that if he pushes me too far I will stress out and then he runs all over me! I try to punish. Naughty step, bedroom for time out, ban from Xbox, you know the score. Ive even tried the odd smack that your not supposed to do nowadays but nothing works! He just laughs in my face.
I have considered just taking him to the nearest police station and dumping him but he knows his own address. BUMMER!

Mrs what do his school say?

His school says he is hyper, full of energy and cant consentrate. He also has aggressive outbursts where he will kick or punch people. These dont happen that often and arent major but are still a worry for me!

Have they ever suggested he is observed by their SENCO ? If you are worried you could ask for this to be done. Does he have friends at school? I think you are worried and that's why you have posted here, but it depends on how 'worried' you are. If you really think it is 'unnatural' behaviour as the stated, he and you may need more help

Excellent advice cat64, your obviously a pro at this!
I must admit that I have tried this in the past and I saw big improvements on his behavier but my husband let me down by not standing by me so I gave up. BIG MISTAKE!
I am gonna promise myself that I will not give up or let anyone elses comments interfer.
Just need to stop getting soo stressed and calm it down abit!
:)