4YO DD bedwetting

[MrsScarlett]

Our 4 year old DD was fully potty trained at the age of 2 1/2.

Since then she has been using the potty and is now using the toilet. She's aware of accidents and how to deal with them, she's very hygenic and a bit of a tidy freak.

It seems odd then, that she's more than happy to continue to wet her bed night after night.

We put the potty in, included a trip to the toilet as part of her routine, and even explained how grown up she was being.

We stopped putting nappies on her at night, but she was soaking the bed and her self every single night, which meant we had to get up extra early to wash her bedding and give her a bed before nursery. It was ridiculous and she obviously wasn't ready yet.

She's now at nursery at her local school and is doing really well, but she's making friends who want her to stay hers or vice versa, and none of the children wear nappies. I'm concerned about his now being something that she will grow to be embarrased about. I expect the odd accident but not this!

How can I help my little angel overcome this bedwetting phase?

give her a bath before nursery

I think it is perfectly normal to be dry during the day but not at night. DD is 4.5 and wears a pull-up to bed despite being dry during the day since just after her 3rd birthday. It is something to do with hormones I believe and bedwetting is not considrered to be a 'problem' until at least 7 years old. I wouldn't worry about sleep-overs just yet - she's very young and I doubt whether they'll be happening for some time yet. I'd put her back in a night-nappy and wait until you get a dry one for several mornings before trying again.

By a matress cover and treat her bed wetting as no big deal. Children stop wetting the bed when they're ready and believe me 4 is on the early side of normal age to do this!

Buy

10% of 5 year olds still wet the bed
(and 5% of 10 year olds too)

I'd put her back in a nappy until she's a bit older

Kylie??

Mmm! Makes me rethink and smirk about Ms Minogue!

My understanding is that wetting at night is linked to some kind of hormone production. At some point, this particular hormone kicks in and kids are able to go through the night without wetting. Before this, they are not. For some kids this hormone kicks in early (e.g. around 2) for others it happens much later.

For what it's worth, my dd1 was in pull ups at 4 when she was in reception. Then one morning she work up dry and after that she only ever had about 2 accidents. It was as if a switch had been turned on somewhere. My HV advised to wait until you had 2 full weeks of dry nappies before taking them off at night.

Incidentally, my dd is now in Y2 and I think every one of her friends weed on the floor in my house when they were in Reception and Year 1. I think LOTS of kids have toileting issues of all kinds at 4 and 5. There's absolutely no need to feel embarrassed about your dd still wetting the bed at 4.

Children get the hormone needed to be dry at night between the ages of 2 and 8.

Dd has been dry day and night since just before her second birthday, ds despite also being dry in the day by his second birthday is still in pull ups at night at 6.5, there is nothing they can do about it, children cannot be 'trained' to be dry at night.

some don't get the hormone at 8

with one of mine we didn't wait until the nappy was dry, she decided she didn't want them any more so stopped and was dry, before that every nappy had been soaked. If we'd have waited for 2 weeks of dry nappies, she might still be in them now

funny things children, all do things slightly differently, especially when you've had a few, they keep coming up with new behaviour traits just to confuse you!

thank you all so much. Sorry for the exceptionally bad grammar and spelling of the first post, I was so tired at the time.
Glad to find out it's not just me, and that it's not an issue x