My 13mo is so unhappy - and so am I

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He was a mad baby - relux - didn't settle well. He BLW well, and is meeting all his milestones but man alive he is so miserable. He just crawls/staggers around 'shouting'. I'm so stressed about it as our neighbours have complained.

I thought it was teething. He was unwell before xmas. Nappies still loose. I'm just so fed up. His sister 3yo is pertty high maintenance but at least I can reason with her.

He goes nuts if he doesn't get his own way (which I accept), but it is prolonged and frequent. I've just given him my iPhone just for 5 mins peace. Even now he's still moaning. I just can't really remember a time when/if he was content.

FFS -

I'm going to take him on the trailer bike now, so will be happy to read responses when I get back.

thanks for reading.

Oh and yes - I do have PND (on Citalopram), and loads of good family support. Thank-god!

Hi my friend has a kiddy just like this and I suggested taking him to baby groups to interact with more babies and apparently he's a bit happier now. He use to scream the house down but nowshe tries to take him to the one o'clock club every other day. I think some babies just want to be entertained with new things all day long and it Can be tiring. Maybe check if u have one of those one o'clock clubs near you it might help as 2 babies playing together is better than one mad run screaming their heads off. Good luck

I was going to suggest baby signing too when I read your OP. Dd was a v demanding baby in the way you describe and I enrolled her in a class mainly to give my mum something to get out to on one of the days she watched her. She was tiny when she started and I thought it was going over her head, but lo and behold the signing started and the screaming stopped (mostly!)

Even if he does have some underlying source of discomfort, he might be able to sign Eg sore ear before he could say it?

Thank-you ladies. I'm going to take him to the GP this week - if nothing else to discuss the fact he hasn't had a solid poo for about a month.

I'm also going to attempt some 'at home' signing. Any recommendations gratefully received (for DVDs - no time for books!)

Mazzza - we do go to one playgroup during the week. However - herein lies the problem I think - when DD is at preschool I'm very guilty of wanting to put him 'second' to either getting things done/me relaxing

This morning when he woke up I gave him his breakfast and then really played with him. I got on the floor and everything. He was much less whingy.

Oh the rest of the day he was with his grandparents who said both children were really well behaved... Not suprising as they were busy and had lots of attention.

Lots to think about in the Wiki house now!

You just need to get a book, it has diagrams of the signs in the back, start using the half a dozen that are most important - food, drink, more, mummy, daddy, dd etc

More is right pointing finger into left hand open palm by memory. I will try and find the book I used.......

You just use the sign every time you say the word.

The book I had was by Joseph Garcia, latest version of book with dvd seems to be this

www.babysigners.co.uk/i2.php?mid=7&sid=0&a=product

Thank-you.

I've booked an appointment with the GP.

DH looked after him today and found it a bit of a struggle

At least it's just you then is it. You're doing really well to cope with it day in and day out it's soooooooooooooo draining.

Did you mean at least it's not just me?

But yes - DH has the patience of a saint and he was pushed to the edge.

oops! not as you worked out!

I hope your dh shows you lots of appreciation for how hard you've been working