4 year old DD will not listen

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DD is four and three-quarters and in general is a very sweet, intelligent and good child. BUT over the last few weeks she has had phases of being incredibly difficult, in that she will just not listen. If I try to discipline her by telling her in a "bossy" voice that she is being naughty, she treats is like a joke and tells me that I am being rude to her. If I take it further, by using a harsher voice, etc. she will start crying. Is this just a phase?

DS is exactly the same in not listening at the moment. TBH i think it's mostly to do with christmas and being completely over indulged.

Can you try something else instead of just your voice. Take something away if she ignores you maybe?

Definitely a phase -it will pass if you are firm. When you tell her she is being naughty does she actually know what being naughty is?
Just be very specific about what you find unacceptable rather than generalising her behaviour.

Just a phase (I hope so anyway as DS1 is the same). I think it's pretty common, almost like a second stage of terrible twos where they try and exert their authority again. Zero tolerance and calmness is the way forward I think. Quietly state that she can choose to do what you are asking, or not and if not there will be a consequence...no seeing friends later/having treat/TV off for rest of day/walk instead of scooting/cycling to school the next day...follow through consistently and it should help. Ds1 is definitely getting better-also don't forget the essential copious praise/reward when she is "very grown up" and listens first time .

Thanks for the comments - I am glad it's not just DD !
The fact that it's been Christmas and we have been out of our usual routine, etc. is probably not helping...

I also have a DD who is 4.8 and I could have written your post pretty much word for word. But, I completely agree with whoever suggested the Christmas upset.. We've been abroad visiting my family and have also had the ILs staying with us for a few days.. over indulgence all round. Today we are staying home and she is making up real life cribs with her little bro..

Normality for a day or two is, I believe, what the doctor ordered

Yes, sounds like Christmas when the rules change and it's rather confusing if you're 3/4/5/6 etc!

We often get this the day after grandparents visit too!