My 4yo DS has anger management issues!

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He is doing my head in. He is on the whole a sweet, articulate, bright kid but if he is bored, not getting his own way or just frustrated he lashes out and is really violent.

REcent examples:

• Refusing to sit on his chair and then banging his hand so hard on a cafe window I thought he might break it because I wouldn't buy him another cake.

• Throwing on orange at the shop assistant in Sainsbury's as he was bored in the trolley.

• Shouting and whining throughout a consultant appt at the hospital as he was thirsty.

OK, so it looks pretty petty written down, but his anger and stubborness worries me. Will he grow out of it or will he become an angry man!? His older sister has always been really relaxed and happy (though is often upset with her brother and his attacks on her), so I'm just shocked at his behavious and not sure how to discipline him.

Any suggestions/ books etc appreciated...

I dont know if it's relevant but my 4 yo is often the same after eating certain things, mostly anything that contains orange colouring or icing etc.

If I just give my views on what you have written.... If a child was in danger then remove them from it, (the glass window).

Try and amuse him by involving him when shopping not easy i know .... please can you put that in the trolley, can you see the where the apples are, Sometimes I have just given a child the end of the crusty bread to keep them busy eating while in a supermarket.
Shouting..... get him a drink? maybe.

AA child has certain needs that as parents hhave to meet for an easier life.

My son was abit of a nightmare at 2 but is quite well behaved at 13. It is best to teach them while they are young that life cant always be how they see it or want it to be.

The Explosive Child. It may not ring true, but if it does ring true, it's a life saver!!