Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Behaviour/development

Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

my dd does not want to go out!!!!

9 replies

happy81 · 23/12/2010 23:07

My dd is 2,5 years old and she used to be very happy when we been out and about - playgroup,parks...Suddenly she decided not to.Now most of the time we are home,and she is really happy,watching tv and playing with her toys.I am wondering what is the reason for that change.She does not want to see and play with anyone- just 1-2 very close friends.we went to a party today and half way there she said "i do not want party,i want home",any way we went.she was not happy at all.She is very good eater but she even refused to eat there...
any sugestions.Thanks

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Valpollicella · 23/12/2010 23:25

DS went through stages of this. He still does!

I think that sometimes we underestimate (just very occasionally) how tiring it can all be for them. Even if it just a day of going to the supermarket/then to play at a friends/then to the playground

Sometimes they just want to mooch about at home...as we do too!

Do still take her out but maybe to one 'thing' (discounting any errands/jobs/chores you have to do) a day? Or maybe every other day?

No harm in allowing them the gift of boredom sometimes Grin

MissFit · 23/12/2010 23:30

My DD's like this when she's very tired / under the weather / coming down with something.

happy81 · 24/12/2010 09:18

Thanks for your replyes.Yes i understand that but it is for more than a month in a row...i really do not want to force her but i have ds who is only 4 months old and he needs fresh air and walks.Hopefully this phase will not last long:)
Merry Xmas everybody:))))

OP posts:
Roo83 · 24/12/2010 10:01

Maybe she's a bit unsettled with ds and likes the security and familiarity of being at home? I have 2 about the same age and I think even after 4mnths with new baby it's still hard for them to adapt. Hope you have a lovely Christmas.

LadybeenKissingSantaClaus · 28/12/2010 13:23

Happy81 I have a DS age 2.8 who is just the same. It's been going on for a while now, he used to like going to playground, shopping & cafe, farm etc on my days with him or on weekends but now definitely prefers to stay at home and play with his toys.

I'm not entirely sure what it's all about - it's difficult because he goes to a childminder 4 days a week while DH & I work. So I don't know if in his mind he's already 'gone out' when going there and just wants to chill with his own toys at home.

He has also gone through a bit a change, starting with me going abroad for work for a week, he was quite disrupted when I came back, then we've done potty training, moving to a new room and switching to a big bed all in the last 4 months.

I think he does enjoy going out still, he just knows that there is often a choice about what we do together on my day off or weekends, and so he makes his feelings known that he'd rather stay at home.

Oh, this might also just be part of his personality...his Dad is just the same, would much rather stay at home than go out. I need more variety than that. I also get the dreaded 'should' guilt - as in, I SHOULD be spending our time doing fascinating and educational activities. I've learnt that any thought of mine that starts with 'I should' needs to be questioned though...there are a lot of 'shoulds' that aren't that important really. Obviously if I need to go out to get something or for my sanity, then that's a different question.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone with a homebody child.

Orissiah · 30/12/2010 08:49

My 2.5yr old DD does this now. She used to love going out but in the past month she prefers to stay at home playing with her toys. This has coincided with the cold weather and also with the fact that she is playing much more independently and imaginatively in recent months. We do go out but not as intensively as before. I see it as a phase. (BTW, she is in daycare fulltime so has even less time at home with her toys).

ifaistos · 30/12/2010 12:53

My dd has been like this for months now. It's only just starting to pass. She'd refuse to go out even for fun stuff. We've moved house, had a new baby so I just put it down to that, although tbh she was like that before the move and baby too. Maybe just an age where toys become more interesting?

sleepwhenidie · 30/12/2010 13:09

Yep, my DD 2.5 is the same. She is enthusiastic about going somewhere (be it swimming, park, nursery) until it actually comes down to getting ready and going out.

If she is already dressed and ready she sometimes takes clothes off Hmm or runs away from coat and shoes etc. It is infuriating, especially when trying to get her and a usually screaming 11mo out at the same time. DS2 always objects to being stopped from playing or put in his coat and pushchair, usually he is ready for a nap at that point so it makes the whole thing much more stressful. Its not fun! I often wonder how/why parents who don't have to leave the house bother doing so when faced with this every day! I usually have to, for my sanity and also to collect DS1 fom school Grin.

My DD is usually fine once out though, but always glad to come home. I am sure it will pass [hopeful emoticon].

happy81 · 13/01/2011 12:36

hello everyone:)thanks for the replies,happy to hear we are not only ones like that...my dd still like that,today we were on the way to the shop and saw one of her friends.When she heard he is going to play group she said i want aswell,i was surprised and took her there.once we got there she said no,i want home,we were there for i while but clearly she was not happy.so we came home and she is ok:).i really hope is one of the phases....

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page