Gibbon is in a tizz, DD2..reason to worry?

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So I wasn't sure if I should start this thread. Not sure if anyone will even see it but here goes.

DD2 has been referred for her delay in reaching out (in that she does not do it at all at 6 months)

She is so different to DD1 and people keep telling me she is just more:-

placid/chilled/second child. So smiley, so happy but very, very placid. Hardly ever hear her cry. So rare - that is till this evening. Went to supermarket and had to leave as she became truly hysterical. She was jerking her head and clicking whilst screaming in distress not seen her like that before

My gut is telling me something needs addressing but the few people I have spoken to have just said she is delayed and I am worrying unnecessarily.

Did BLW with DD1, DD2 showing no signs/not nearly ready for weaning...she is happy and content (in the main) so why am I fretting?

I'm not sure lovey.

I know that my second son is entirely different to my DS1. He is certainly clicking with things much later and still "fiddles" far more than is usual (in my eyes), he is also amazingly happy, affectionate, caring, intuitive. He has had terrible trouble at school, mainly academically, but because ALL of his teachers, the Head included (apart from one WITCH) have commented on his extreme politeness and charm and general helpfulness he gets away with it...erm, way to turn this post to something about ME AND MINE.

I guess if DS2 was referred, I'd take the referral. See what they have to say.

I understand how you're feeling. x

Sorry, don't recall much about reaching out being a milestone and don't know what (if anything) might be behind it.

My 6.5 month old DS is also a smiley, more chilled 2nd child. I think possibly we expect our second child to mirror the first and get a bit confuddled when they don't!

I've started weaning him but if it makes you feel any better he was certainly not showing classic "signs" despite being keen enough when I did start.

Ref the distress. Teeth? It's a classic time for that. DS is also just starting to show signs of separation anxiety I think (you said you were leaving?)

We fret because we are mums.

Do you have a decent HV etc?

Thank you for posting Shirley, talk away about DS2 - it helps to share I feel, hence my thread

I appreciate you taking the time to post

Thank you RCG no not leaving, just got there (supermarket) to do some shopping and she lost it in a way I have never seen her cry since she has been born. It was the head jerking, loud clicking and and the way she seemed inconsolable that has me fretting. Along with he issues she has been referred for.

Thank you for taking the time to answer

Sorry, just read your OP again and see what you meant re supermarket. Must go to bed.

As a one-off I would try not to worry about the crying. It sounds horrid but if it doesn't happen again then could just be some transient discomfort. Clicking does sound odd though.

I hope you get some answers from your referral.

Thank you RCG, appreciate you taking time to post.

Sorry, "odd" that sounds so insensitive. I don't mean that you should worry, just that I see why you would find it unusual.

I knew what you meant

I agree they're all so different.

DS1 screamed hsyterically for 6 months. He was sitting just before 5 months, but had absolutely no interest in reaching out, or trying to get things he could see - he never crawled and could only roll in one direction at 1yr old. although he was cruising furniture from 11 months old - he couldn't pull himself to standing and I'd have to do that for him - he didn't walk until he was 18 months - and my house never needed "baby proofing" (DVD's, things on shelves) at all - he just wasn't interested. He's 10yrs old now - and absolutely normal.

DS2 came along and hardly ever cried, crawled, walked etc quite early.

Both of them were eating purées at 4 months and finger foods in vast quantities by around 7/8 months old.

DS3 came along....he cried a bit, was "average" on his walking/crawling etc. Btu food - omg - at nearly a year old I was still tearing my hair out as he just wasn't interested. Actually he never really became interested in food that much until about 6 months or so ago (and he's 3 1/2yrs old now!)

They are all so different, and are very good at scaring us by not reaching "milestones" when they should, or not doing certain things at all. And it's even worse when you have older children to compare with.

(you made me go talk shit on a bunch of unanswered posts - therefore MN is full of Shirley bollocks - I HOPE YOU'RE SATISFIED! )

Honestly, I get that feeling sometimes about DS2...that rat gnawing feeling that maybe, I'm not just NOT COMPARING him to DS1, but I'm IGNORING his problems by thinking "oh, they're just different"

gah!

I have to be honest though, DS2 has been spot on with all of his "milestones", but I do not believe that weaning is a milestone (I did at the time though, should I have another one I would be FAR more sanguine) If I had a lovely little baby now I would just bloody RELAX, and remember that this time is SO fucking short. It really is...You know that it is.

She's 6 sodding months. 6 little months on this earth. half a year.

If the fear is her reaction to the supermarket this week? I can only say that I have been shouting and crying at the supermarket myself this week - it's xmas - it's SHITTY and NOISY and SCARY and I am OLD.

Give it another month, maybe more than a month - this is a stressful (and very unusually cold) time of year lovey. Wait and see.

Wait and See.

Shirley, I have warmed to you in a most familiar way. Thank you for your post

and I did chuckle warmly at MN being full of Shirley bollocks/wisdom