Talk to me about reward charts etc. What do you use with your 2/3 year olds?

[SilveryMoon]

Anyone have any good printable reward charts?
Do you fancy talking me through what you do/how?
My ds1 doesn't seem to like them. He will (rarely) display a positive behaviour, I tell him how good it is and when I try to put a sticker on a reward chart he starts screaming!
Any good tips or other things I can try to praise the positive behaviour he displays?

I don't use them - perhaps it's a little early for them? Perhaps you could get a handstamp instead and put a handstamp on his hand when he's good.

I just tell DS (just 3) what a good boy he is (yes I'm aware that you're not supposed to do that either, you're supposed to praise the behaviour, not the child, but it's quite difficult at this age, I find)

Sounds like you're having a hard time - :( to hear that.

Yeah, things are a bit tough at the moment.
Ds1 is very strong-minded and ds2 is now finding his aggressive streak too, so it's not stop fighting and shouting between them and I'm kind of at a loss as to what to do about it.
I have a naughty spot that I send them to, but when it starts getting really bad I end up sending ds1 to his room.

I just don't seem to know what I want to do or what I feel is the best course of action iyswim.
I'll get there one day.

When you praise the good behaviour you can describe it rather than just say "well done" or "good boy". And talk about it with others - when you see Daddy or a friend or even other DS, you can say in a way that he deliberately hears, "Oh, DS behaved really well today when .....". If he is into make believe stories with toys you can tell little tales about the toy realising it was better to play nicely or whatever. You can play act with another adult situations that they can see where you try to take something from the other person & it looks like it will escalate but then you both resolve it fairly. These are things they do at our pre-school rather than "traditional" discipline. I realise it all sounds a bit soft though!

elvis I pretty much do that. I'm quite good at the praise part. Although sometimes, the boys will be playing nicely together and I'll say something "You 2 are playing so well together and sharing your toys nicely, this is making mummy very happy" and then it's almost like they realise they're not hitting each other and then start acting up, at which point I might say "Oh dear, that's not kind, mummy is sad that you rae hitting" but is that sentance labelling the behaviour or the child?
When they are especially good, I allow ds1 to talk to daddy on the phone and tell him what we are doing. But then I do the same when he is acting up. I'll phone dp and tell him that ds1 is sitting on the floor in the middle of the shop and then dp will talk to him and he'll get up.