how long should toilet raining take?

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A friend of mine has been toilet training her daughter since June. She is 2 1/2 years old.
She's fine when they go out i.e a trip to the shops or a long car journey. Although when they are at home or in someone else's house she tends to have accidents.
Any suggestions as to how to overcome this problem?

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The mother just needs to watch the child in those problem situations and spot the signs that her DD needs to go in advance of an accident. They get so engrossed in playing that they tend to forget. I think toddlers generally start holding themselves or get really fidgety... you just need to learn the signs for that particular child.

2 1/2 is still very young to be completely reliable.

HTH

wel I've been trying for over 2 years now.....

DS1 was trained at 2.8 and now one year on still seems to have accidents at home too - I agree that they just seem to forget.

It seems as if his trigger is when he realises he's a bit damp, but by them it's just too late.
He doesn't fully wet himself - just seems to wet a little bit in the gussett (now there's a word I hate!) of his pants... but it does mean that when he's been at nursery they sometimes come home a bit 'crispy' & pungent (sorry.... )
Am I alone with this problem?

Do you think boys are worse at this - do they have weaker bladders or something?

mo2

Sounds like my ds until about a year ago - he's now 5. Still get the occasional problem at home when he's really involved in a game and just doesn't seem to give it priority attention. I think boys are less concerned about it than girls and more easily distracted.

Can I ask a question?
I was actually wondering how early can we expect a child to be dry at night ? My sister's DD had her daughter dry at 2 and no accident... I would know we were on hols together and she didn't use any nappies, no accident either. I thought dryness at night was more like at 3 or 4 ???

Can I ask a question?
I was actually wondering how early can we expect a child to be dry at night ? My sister's DD had her daughter dry at 2 and no accident... I would know we were on hols together and she didn't use any nappies, no accident either. I thought dryness at night was more like at 3 or 4 ???

Our nephew was dry day and night at just 2 .But they didn't get a full night's sleep for ages because he could not hold it all night.

ds1(2yrs10mo) was dry at night by 2.5yrs, although would call us at night if he needed a wee. Then by 2yrs and 8mo he would get up and use the potty by himself, likewise first thing on waking. It was all his own undertaking, he just did it as he was ready. (Can you tell I'm REALLY proud of him??..heart swells....) We've only had 1 accident and that was first night of a holiday this summer. He had a temperature and had been up since 4.30am for an early flight. Pretty good record, I'll think you'll agree!

accidents happen.

This is very tricky sobernow - does she wet herself and her cothes ??? Do you leave her in her clothes ?
I am not sure what I would do... I guess you could try pull ups ?

Sweetypie - my DD was dry day and night at just 2 yo- she hasn't had a night accident and she sleeps 13 hours (no waking to ask potty)! - I have to say that I was concerned that if I left her cot bars this would be a problem but it hasn't been.
DS was dry also at night at 2 y and 4 months and has never had a night accident. He is almost 4.
Every child is different.

I asked before on MN about being dry at night. there were a lot of replies which suggested that 3years+1-2 months was typical, but with wide variation. HTH.

My ds, 3.3, still has lots of accidents. He often forgets and then wets himself. However, he can take himself upstairs, pu the toilet seat up, wee, flush and wash his hands completely independently. Most days there is a bot of both but I am quite laid back about it, remember it is not a competition and they all get there in the end.

DD was dry day and night at 18m, the night dryness happened about a week after day dryness, inbetween she really kicked off about having a nappy on at night. TBH the first night DH forgot to put a nappy on, after that there didn't seem any point.

We've had 2 big moves in 4 months, with lots of other changes and have since had the odd daytime accident, she got quite distressed, but 12 months on from initial training, no dramas.

hi there sobernow can i just say ...thank heavens i'm not alone. am getting exasperated by my DD age 3.5 She seemed to have the whole potty training thing handled and started preschool and everything and then after a couple of false starts at preschool all went well but now....the poo routine is the same but wees are just well if anything else more interesting is happening or she odesnt wnat to be told to go then she just wets herself. Sometimes its up to 5 outfits a day . I'm at a loss now what to do Health Visitior suggested star chart rewards but her attention span is too short even for that and short term rewards work one day and not the next!!. ALL SUGGESTIONS WELCOME PLEASE contact me direct at [email protected] I always see sensible advice on this iste so I'm counting on you!! Thanks

What about the old trick of leaving her in her wet knickers ?

This is all soooo familiar! My dd2 has been in pants since June. For her too the trigger of when she needs to wee is after she has done a bit of it. So she then goes to the potty and does the rest without too many problems. But the poos!!! If we even suggest that she might want to do one, she starts getting cross, and if we insist she sits on the potty to wait for one (when it is obvious that one is coming) she gets hysterical. She just does them in her pants. After she has done one she doesn't admit it -- when I ask her if she has done one, she denies it, then gets upset. I don't know what I've done wrong. I have tried star charts, praise, sweets (sweets work the best. The going rate is 1 smartie for a wee on the potty, with the offer of a whole - small - box for a poo). We've tried pull ups, but she just uses them as a nappy. We have even tried goiing back to nappies, but she got really upset then, shouting "I'm not a baby, I'm a big girl, I wear pants". She has a baby brother and she is very clear that she is not like him! She knows all the theory, and will tell me that the potty is the place for wees and poos.

Where do I go from here? Do I just grind on with two pooey pants a day? not to mention all the (slightly) wet ones. Please can someone out there have a miracle solution!