Seperation Anxiety - when does it pass?

[SiameseSnowCat]

DD is 9 months and for the last few weeks and even more so this last week has become very very clingy - so much so that she will not fall alseep alone as she used to and wakes at 3am and will not go back to sleep unless she is in bed with me (where she falls asleep promptly).

Obviously this is just a phase, it will pass :) but can I have some words of encouragement from those of you 'out the other side'? When did it stop, did you do anything to help it pass?

My DS had bad seperation anxiety and it didn't start easing up until he was 18months and he gradually got better, allowing me to leave the room without crying as he got closer to 2. I know all kids are different though. He was the same with sleeping as well. He still prefers me with him when he falls asleep! Best of luck.

I'm in the same situation re: night waking siamese. DD still self-settles sometimes, but the times when she does wake up properly and would usually go back to sleep with a cuddle, she now often needs to be taken into my and DH's bed. I'd be interested to know how long it usually lasts as well.

Thanks Cilantro please please let it cease before 18 months..

BMI Exactly.

Im sooo tired - I cant sleep properly after an hour of whinging at 3am and then DD stealing the covers and kicking me in the thigh!

siamese when DD's sep anxiety started it was really difficult to get her back to sleep at night. Cuddles/feeding no longer worked. So after a while we moved into her room with her for a few weeks on a mattress. This seemed to do the trick (still waking but going back to sleep a lot quicker). After a few weeks we moved back to our own room and it's going much better. Still wakes but isn't in such a panic about us not being there, will go back to sleep after a feed or cuddle.

The worst of it will pass (for us it passed about 12 months) but it comes and goes, tbh. DD is 2.3 yrs old and still gets a bit clingy when teething and also when going through a big development burst.

It will pass, my DD is 11 months and is getting better, ie will be held happily by others and doesnt disintergate into tears when I leave the room for a moment.

You are doing the best thing, with DS I found he got through it quickly by constantly reassuring him, lots of cuddles sitting on your hip etc, we are doing the same with DD and I think its working

Showing her that she can have a cuddle / be near you when they want will teach her that you always come back.

Also around nine months they can start to crawl so this development leap can lead to extra night wakings

Ah, well it goes and it comes back again . DD got better between 12 months and 18 months, but at age 2 she has phases of being very clingy and drop of at nursery is hard (she is still quite new). I think you have to expect it up to the age of 3 really at which point they have basically worked out that they are separate from you and that you will come back!!