will it get better?

[Brewster]

My 2 year old little boy used to be so cuddley and sweet.give you a kiss whenever you asked for it

about 3 weeks ago we went on hoiliday and we all had a tough time away. he stopped eating and his sleepoing was bad etc etc ...

now we are home his sleeping and etaing have returned but he is still being very moany and whiny..but only with me!!

He used to be such a mummies boy but now he looks past me to Daddy and will give Daddy cuddles but not me.

This moaning is driving me crazy and i guess I have lost my temper a lot lately with him cos I have a lot of terrible things just happened to me with my side of the family and also going through fertiulity treatment etc....anyway....I miss my little boy and wonder when he will love me agian and treat me like he is every one else.

He is lovely but then when I come in the room he starts getting all moany and clingy and goes on and on and on about stuff...

anyone?

It sounds like he's picking up that you're stressed and he's feeling a bit insecure.

Could you try to spend some one to one time with him? Perhaps spend some time with just you and him doing something he likes. Perhaps a fun softplay session or some stuff in the house?

Try to ignore the moaning and see past it. He's just seeking attention.

yeah I am always just doing stuff me and him.
I am a stay at home mum and though my hubby works from home - in an office in the garden so is in for lunch and stuff - we do fun stuff and we go to play places and out for babycinos etc etc .
he is mostly ok while doing the fun thing though we get the odd moan but as soon as it has ended or it is time to leave it all starts again - never use dto be like this!!

He went thorugh a phase of moaning and demanding cuddles every time I was busy doing something so I trie dto teach him to be patient by saying I was busy and as soon as i was done we would have abig cuddle - - - now when i ask him for a cuddle he tell sme he is busy!

I feel like such a failure and life is becoming a nightmare!!

Are you sure he's not ill in some way?

Sounds just like my DD when something is going on sickness wise, like a complete personality change.

Just a thought.

I dont think so.

He does go through these very moany phases whenever he has any kind of development...just never been quite like this before.

Just finding it really hard to cope with everything else going and and this and I am not sleeping ....all building up and really pulling me down....

I have no words of advice really just wanted to share that I am going through similiar behaviour with my 3 year old. Since his little brother was born he stopped kissing me, and has become very defiant, shouty and rude. Like you Brewster I am constantly loosing my temper with him and is forever being sent upstairs to calm down. I feel like a total failure!

I am sorry that I can't suggest anything helpful, I am struggling myself!! I keep thinking that surely it will have to get better soon...

yeah i keep thinking it has to improve but then I feel guilty for wishing the time away and then I get sadder!!

Hope improves for you soon
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