Positive Parenting Book suggestions please.

[smilesandsun]

Hi,

I'm looking for a book on positive parenting, i've read plenty of parenting books but want to get one specifically on positive parenting. I want to have pointers that I can read over and over to remind myself and not get caught up in the little issues or should I say challenges that keep on popping up.

Thx.

Little Angels by Dr Tanya Byron is good for that sort of thing. One thing I learned from it and still use is using positive praise, i think we all can get locked into a cycle of ebing negative eg: don't do that, dtop this etc etc and when they are playing nicely we never say a word.

So I say lots of positive things to my boys, 3 and 8, when they are doing good stuff and just being normal. It does really work, after all everyone whatever age likes a please and a thank you and a well done.

I thought positve parenting was code for UP which means no praise...?

What age?

The Incredible Years by Carolyn Webster Stratton is a good book it's for 2-8year olds but the principles apply for older kids as well. Amazon do it if you're interested.

Use your instincts to bring up your children and read Paranoid Parenting instead (Frank Furedi). Otherwise you'll feel inadequate and insecure (hence the need for yet more "how to parent" books...

My instincts told me that I don't know it all and so I have sough out the ideas of others to add grist to the mill.

I've just read a lovely book (and recomended on other threads lately ) called letting go as children grow by Deborah Jackson. The title dosen't do it justice really but it basically says trust your kids, don't assume the worst of them, and let them go at theor own pace...that dosen't do it justice either...but that's why I'm not a parenting book author.

Also it has a synopsis at the endof each chaptor...v usefull

Smiles, the basic principles are easy to learn and if you feel you need some assistance most HV and School Nurses are able to refer to parenting courses based on these principles.
They are
Lots of praise
Listen to your DC and try to understand the context of the behaviour, precursors for it i.e. give warning before taking to bed, going out etc so they expect it and can prepare.
Allow time for them to do tasks which reduces frustration.
Bad behaviour is usually due to boredom, unmet basic needs i.e. food, sleep, attention and can be pre-empted by having a predictable routine. Have a look in the library, they usually have a good selection

[http://www.youngballymun.org/fileadmin/user_upload/files/Incredible_Years_FACT_SHEET_Nov_2010.pdf]
This link might be useful.

Thanks for all the comments. I have the book Little Angels and agree that it is great for what I need. I'm also going to check out Letting go as Children Grow it sounds interesting.

As for just relying on my instincts, its a fine idea but sometimes I think its a good thing to take into consideration others opinions and ideas. I don't feel inadequate or insecure for doing so, rather I feel happy that I am trying my best to raise happy children.

thanks again!

playful parenting is fab - read the amazon reviews