2 year old won't go to sleep in her bed

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daughter was just 2 a few weeks ago, she does sleep through but to get her to sleep takes ages she is so so tired i'm quite into routine and know that she is tired by 7-7.30 but she either cries or she'll talk for ages sometimes till 9.30! if she is screaming i don't like to leave her too long cause she's calling mummy mummy and crying but then i go in and she wants to come into my bed so me or my hubby lies down next to her and she goes to sleep and then half an hour later one of us attemps to leave her its usually fine but like just now she woke up and started crying so he put her back in our bed!! please any advice welcome

My 2 year old DS was the same. He pretty much co slept with us until he was 2. After I had DD the bed got small very quickly!!!

I started to introduce the idea to him that it was better to sleep in his own bed all night. We bought new bed covers (of his choice) a nightlight and a reward chart for staying in his bed all night.

We have been doing it for about 2 months now and though he does wake up and come into our room he is ok with being taken back.

When he comes in I just say "back to bed, night night" and take him back tuck him in and leave. At first he cried a bit but now he is fine with it.

It was very very hard not to just put him in bed with us but I think once you have decided to stop then you have to stick at it or it just sends mixed signals.

Good luck!

I agree with firefliesinjune - but the other way to do it is just to co-sleep. It sounds like usually that's ok. If she wakes up occasionally when you get up from lying down next to her, then it sounds fairly normal to me. All children have phases where they are more in need of reassurance in the night. We have done a range of things over time with our two. At present, dd (5) lies in her own bed to go to sleep while ds (nearly 2) needs me lying down next to him in his bed. About 11pm ds wakes up and needs another cuddle but can stay in his bed. Then later in the night ds cries and I am too tired to stay with him so I take him into our bed. Towards morning dd also comes and gets in!
It's fine by us! (we have a big bed and I've left our baby bay on so noone (usually me!) falls out!).
Most people think we're crazy but we see no problem with it whatsoever! :)

can not do co sleep, she moves and kicks like mad also she has club foot her feet are fine but at night she has to wear special boots with a bar attatching them so when she kicks it REALLY hurts&not enough room in bed.she just went to sleep at nine put her down at 7;30 did controlled crying was awful but hoping tomorrow won't be so bad