God, I'm cracking up! My 3.5 DS is going through a terrible tantrum phase and I can't work out what is causing it. I know they're from frustration and from not getting what he wants and generally they're triggered by his little brother (26 mnths) getting something he wants - this morning before nursery I warned him that DS2 was going int he front of the pushchair and that he could go in the front on the way home later. 30 minute tantrum which my DH dealt with while I took DS2 to nursery.
He has been ill with two colds in succession, one leaving a viral cough. All goint away and he's practically better. In the middle of the two colds, we took his dummy away and he was fine (bit of bribery involved) and it went well. Then he got ill again and I nearly cracked and gave it back but I didn't give in and again, he's been fine. Slept very well last night (after a 30 minute tantrum about not taking his vest off). The thing is, he's having 2 of these tantrum a day and I end up screaming at him, which I know doesn't help but I'm like a coiled spring and they often happen when I'm at my most vulnerable as well, i.e. end of the day. Any suggestions as to why he's going through this phase or what I can do about it. We have a star chart for good behaviour etc which is working well..... it's so upsetting and he's always really sorry after which breaks my heart......