Take him to the doctors!!!

[mammam79]

Hi all, I am a mummy 2 a boy 6 and a girl 3. I have just picked my son up from school and been told to take him to the doctors. They have decided that he needs to the doctor because he misbehaves. I am so upset over this....and dont know what to think. I feel that the way the school has messed my son around ie different teachers classes (4 teachers n 4 class rooms in one year is a bit much)may be a factor in this. My son is falling behind and i dont know what to do, to help i just feel that doctors is not the way. :(

Have you had no previous indication that this was brewing ? You need to arrange to meet the school's SENCO (Special Educational Needs Coordinator) and teacher to highlight the issues they wish you to refer to gp. It may be that an assessment is the right way to go, even if only to eliminate possibilities. The most obvious things to screen are hearing (ie glue ear) and visual problems then you and school need to agree on an incentive scheme and targets (IEP - Individual Education Plan) for good behaviour and to help him catch up while he is waiting if any further assessments are suggested . Alternatively the school could involve outside specialists such as an Educational Psychologist direct.

hi my son has had problems settling down and he is already on the iep list. He was put on here as they said he needed help to concentrate!!! he has hearing problems and sufferes with some hearing loss (through glue ear) the school do know this. I saw the schools special needs co ordinator a few weeks ago who felt that he needed more support, no more has been given.

Then you need to go back to her and ask her what they are already doing to help him. Would it be worth trying to get a statement so he has some one to one or can he have catch up lessons in a small group ? Does he already have SALT sessions?

never hear of salt sessions what are they??

Speech and Language Therapists.

I agree with LIZS. Talk to the head. Telling you at the door that you need to go to the doctors is an odd way of expressing concern about your son's learning.

Lizs i think you're jumping the gun here. Her child would need to be severely impacted in the learning environment to warant a statement of educational needs and would have to go through rigerous assessments to get one. Why would he need a SALT? ... has he got speech and language difficulties ?

OP says he has hearing loss which often does impact on understanding of language and communication (even if temporarily) and behaviour in a classroom environment. He may be more sensitive to ambient noise levels for example as it affects his ability to hear and follow what is going on, causing frustration and confusion. If his hearing problem has been ongoing it may well have a more significant impact on the developemnt of his speech and language, which in turn may affect his learning and be why he is lagging behind.

Agree a statement is a long way down the road, if it were ever applicable, but if the school really believe he needs help they need to be more proactive in helping op and her ds. A statement would probably include provision for one to one which the school may not otherwise have resources for.

Ask for a meeting with the teacher.

Schools do not go round telling parents to take their naughty children to a doctor! Something has given them concerns, which they need to explain fully to you.

Yes, you need to ask them to clarify what they think a doctor could do to help - eg whether the hearing problem needs something doing (further tests, hearing aid?) or if there is something else that needs addressing.

Wow thanx all. Sorry late replies laptop been on the blink. The teacher has now agreed i can sit in on a class with my son next week to see how he behaves, although he will probaly behave better if i am present. the h,visitor decided he did not need salt. His hearing is impaired but not enough for a hearing aid but i do agree that a meeting to clarify issues with the head is going to be my next step. All this behaviour seems to be with the one teacher, and he is good for otheres