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Why has my 5yr old turned into the child from hell.....

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QueenOfQuotes · 21/09/2005 20:03

since starting school?? He goes in happily, comes out happily and tells me all about his day and who he's played with.

But once we get home he's suddenly become really naughty, he's been playing with our mobile phones (never done it before), playing with the home phone (thankfully have DH's work number on my mobile or I'd be stuffed as he's managed to delete it from the landline). He's poo-ed in his pants TWICE today (ok so we only got that bit of potty training sorted around Easter), is being rude, answering back, he got his little scissors out of his crayola set and cut up some 'ribbon' I had in the drawer, encouragin and helping his brother to climb on the piano and empty the top of the piano over the floor, is deliberately trying to hurt his brother, arghh the list is endless.

He's been there 2 weeks now, and in the last week/5 days has turned into a nightmare. I know they say that they often change once they start school, but this dramatically I simply didn't expect. It's driving me mad, especially as DH works afternoons/evenings so I'm getting all of it myself ATM.

It wouldn't be so bad if his brother wasn't now starting to copy him too

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Bozza · 22/09/2005 12:59

QofQ - they all have loads of toys but if you pick well you can choose one that they are bothered about. I recognise DS in a lot of what has been described on this thread. He's grumpy, disobedient and talking like a baby. I put it down to stress and tiredness - was surprised because he was doing 3 full days (8-5.30) at nursery before and I know he likes school. Share the problem of not being able to put him to bed early because of the younger one. Do they share a room? I've started closing DS's door when I go to bed so that DD doesn't wake him.

Think the baby talk, pooing pants etc is a reaction to being made to grow up. Similar to what some children do when presented with a new sibling.

CeeTee · 22/09/2005 13:07

My 5 year old dumped a soda on the floor on purpose, so I told him no more soda for 3 days.
Maybe when you catch them in the act of something, reprimand him & show him that you are taking it away he may want it more...Or like I said maybe just a chart itself, like when he puts his laundry away put a smiley face & he will be proud of it.
Or maybe if that won't work, a nice bloody mary for you

QueenOfQuotes · 22/09/2005 13:08

Bozza - they really do have loads of toys - really far too many - I keep meaing to sort them out and get rid of at least 2/3 of them off to the charity shop/toddler groups - and even then there'll be too many. LOL.

They do share a room and DS2 throws a complete wobbly if he's made to go to bed either before, or after his brother - which is more hassle than DS1 is being at the moment.

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Enid · 22/09/2005 13:13

agree with cod (yawn)

definitely tiredness plays a big part

dont get sucked into the 'well he was at nursery full time and he's only at school 5 mornings' thing - school is MUCH more intense than nursery.

early early nights

QueenOfQuotes · 22/09/2005 13:15

but Enid he's not there in the mornings, he's there in the afternoons - and he's a brat from the moment he wakes up !

I simpley can't bring their bedtime forward. There's no way it can be done.

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QueenOfQuotes · 22/09/2005 13:16

however, it's good to know it's 'normal' - and today don't feel as if my parenting is somehow to blame (was having doubts about it as it's sort of co-incided with DH working in teh afternoons and evenings).

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sausagedog · 22/09/2005 13:17

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Bozza · 22/09/2005 13:19

Yes Enid it took me all of two days to realise that! (the nursery v school thing).

CeeTee · 22/09/2005 13:19

Yep Queenie,
Your'e normal!
Hey, Did I just notice that we are all talking about little boys!?!
Maybe that might be it!
lol

QueenOfQuotes · 22/09/2005 16:08

ok - DEEEP breathes, counting to 978,245,315 DS is playing up again, just stood in front of me messing with the phone. Sent him to the bathroom (his 'naughty' step) and he started spitting on the floor. He's now back in the living room after his time out, but I need a time out now LOL.

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CeeTee · 22/09/2005 16:54

At least he sat on his naughty step.
My son gets up from naughty chair at his own discretion.

GeorginaA · 22/09/2005 17:01

QoQ - really glad I'm not the only one - right down to the worry because of the 'bonding' thing.

I kind of know it's not my job to be my son's "friend" rather a "parent". But it really really sucks at the moment, it really does.

cod · 22/09/2005 17:04

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Kaz33 · 22/09/2005 17:23

I'm trying to persuade school to take him full time earlier so that they can deal with it. But of course that will mean he is even worse at home

QueenOfQuotes · 22/09/2005 17:24

oh I can't wait until he's full time, that way I won't have mornings and late afternoon/early eveing to deal with

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