My outgoing loud child at home is silent at pre-school.

[misdee]

they questioned my mum today when she picked up dd2 about if dd2 ever spoke. apparently she hasnt uttered a word since starting there earlier this months. they seemed a bit concerned.

Oh give her time! All my kids yabber away all day and every day at home but all were quiet when they started playgroup. Ds3 started last week and I swear he hasn't spoken to anyone yet. I am surprised your dd2's pre-school doesn't have more experience of this frankly.

My dd was like this until year two. I was so confused and the complete transformation from loud, confident fun-loving girl at home, to introspective, shy, silent schoolgirl.

I know another girl who's the opposite. She's terrible shy and lacking in confidence at home, and out-going and sociable at school.

I know which I'd rather have.

they asked if she actually spoke. i was the same at her age, but was generally silent all the time. dd2 hasnt even cried at being left and settled stright away. i'm just gonna give her time. she can be quite shy at times, but cant belvie she is silent for the session.

She is probably highly perceptive and intelligent and taking in everything and sussing out who to make friends with and when is the best time to make a dive for the shop corner.

How old is she Misdee? My ds3 is only 2.7 and although he can talk quite well, it isn't very clear and he never says his name or answers questions with much more than a yes or no. I think he is too young for playgroup really. But he is happy enough about it. He talks about going every day but only actually goes twice a week, and he has never cried on being left like your dd. I think that is the most important thing. She will talk more as she gets to know the staff better, I'm sure. (And my ds3 will too).

Give her time, nursery used to describe my child as a 'watcher' although she was so loud at home... she used to prefer to stand back and observe quietly at nursery. She 3 now v. popular and right in there with the rest of them.

Also she was learning all the time she was quiet, taking in what everybody else was doing, how, why and processing and remembering it all.

How old is she? does she say if she needs the toilet? a drink? will she talk if you ask her something there? Also have you asked her if she's happy there?

PMSL, i cam actually see her bossing people about soon. she does at home.

she turned 3 on the 1st sept so is the oldest of the new starters. i'll have a chat with her key worker on monday.