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bed wetting

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hrhgeorge · 20/11/2010 21:20

my son is 20 months and has recently (in the last few weeks) "discovered" himself down below! at first i would tell him off, but that just seemed to amuse him - so now when ever he reaches "down there" i try to distract him and divert his attention. there is something of more concern now, however, which i'd like some advice on - how do i stop him fiddling with himself at night in his bed? he is still wearing a nappy and all-in-one pyjamas and yet he still manages to have a fiddle which results in him wetting himself from top to toe and then wakens up screaming and sobbing, needing to be washed, dressed, bedding to be changed and then nursing back to sleep. this process takes up to 2 hours and we are getting quite anxious (not to mention sleep deprived) about the whole scenario. is this "just a phase" he's going through, is this his way of telling us he is ready for potty training or is it a form of attention seeking... what do we do? is there anyone out there who has experience with a similar behaviour?

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hefferlump · 20/11/2010 21:54

Stop telling him not do 'fiddle' with himself - Its normal and natural FGS !!!

If you leave him be he'll stop doing it when he thinks nobody is looking (ie at night) and just do it in full view of you at home instead.

He's a baby - babies and young children all do this - I'll say again - its perfectly normal and natural. The only thing thats making this happen more often than you'd like, and in the way you dont like (at night) sadly is you making such an issue out of it.

Sorry if this comes accross as harsh - just feel very strongly about this as it can lead to poor self image and difficulty discussing sexual issues when they are older.

Asteria · 20/11/2010 22:17

My year old DS is completely obsessed with his willy - it's a boy thing and it's best just to let them crack on. I totally agree with hefferlump*

I would imagine that his bedwetting will stop if he feels comfortable about following his natural urges. He's not hurting anyone. Perhaps when he is a little older you can suggest to him that it's not the done thing to fiddle in Tesco - but at the moment he is really too young to understand why he is not allowed to do something that he clearly has natural urges to do.

If he is fiddling a lot at night then it may be a comfort thing. How about giving him big cuddles when he starts to rummage?

Asteria · 20/11/2010 22:17

oops - got my * in the wrong place there!!!

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