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DS1 2.5 yrs old is REALLY pushing my buttons

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becs1973 · 20/11/2010 12:52

OK, this is going to be a complete whinge but I'm having a week from hell, so I'm going to do it anyway.

DS1 is 2.5, DS2 is 13 weeks old. DS1 behaviour is getting more and more vile by the day.

Today he spent most of this morning shouting at me, literally not crying or whinging but just SHOUTING over every little thing I did/didn't do. It's like living with a small, totally unpredictable tyrant! He has developed this new ear shattering, high pitched screech which he knows I hate and he comes up and does into our faces if I'm holding DS2 which makes DS2 cry, which sets DS1 off. It's so weird, he HATES it when his brother cries and yet he has decided to do everything in his power to make him cry and then burst into tears as well.

As soon as I'm feeding DS2 (he's bf) DS1 is either poking DS2 eyes, putting his face right into DS2 face or tearing up the lounge and climbing onto dangerous surfaces because he knows I'll not be able to get to him quickly.

I KNOW he's looking for attention and i@m trying my best to give it to him, but sometimes he is just so utterly horrid that I don't really want to spend time with him (that sounds terrible, sorry).....

nighttimes are hellish too. DS1 was sleeping pretty well but for the last few nights he's been horrendous - I've had about 2.5 hours sleep on average each night and I'm shattered. It goes something like this: DS2 wakes for a feed 11pm, DS1 wakes shouting around 1.15am go into settle him but not before DS2 has woken up and refuses to go back down without a feed. Have a bit of respite until 3.30am when DS2 wakes for another feed. Then DS1 woke at 4.15am and refused to go back to sleep......

OK, going to stop before this gets any more ranty. I KNOW he's 2.5 and that's just what they do, and he's unsettled cos his dad's away and because he has a new brother, but I hope it gets better soon because I am rapidly turning into a basket case.
Just realised i've not really asked any questions, but just had to post to get it off my chest if nothing else! If I could just get DS1 to stop crying every time DS2 does that would help......it will get better won't it!?!

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Ne11 · 20/11/2010 13:24

Yes it will get better!

I'm not surprised you're on your knees, you must be exhausted. How long is your husband away for? ( and DS1 could be missing his dad too).
And is there no-one who could help you through the day? Maybe look after No2 whilst you spend time with DS1?
Are you able to rest in the day when they both nap? (if it's ever at the same time...)

thesecondcoming · 20/11/2010 14:25

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wannabeglam · 20/11/2010 16:05

You have all my sympathy. He sounds quite distressed by all the upheaval a new baby inevitably brings and daddy being away.

The only thing I'd say is although it's understandable you're losing patience and are at the end of your tether - that will only make him worse (you know that). When Daddy returns, flee for a few hours solitude (and sleep hopefully! Earplugs, eye mask, hotel - whatever it takes). But also go shopping or swimming - some you time. Daddy might be working hard, but it's not the same.

Poppyella · 22/11/2010 10:10

Playgroup/preschool/nursery?

My twins have been going since they were just 2 and they love it. It would give you a break and hopefully he would love it too.

I feel for you, I really do - the terrible twos!!! And sleep deprivation aswell - you poor thing. It's a killer.

I hope daddy is back soon.

take care

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