Hello im back! i have sold my p.c but am using a friends for one last shot at some advice.
DS was 1 last week and in the nicest way possible hes becoming harder to manage by the day, hes always been a well behaved child a great eater and sleeper.
Now i think i know why hes doing this because we are about to move to NZ to live and weve moved in with my parents untill we go and obviously hes not used to it.
But i would still like some advice if anyone has any. so here goes.
It started with a few sleepless nights whith was odd as he had slept really well even after we moved in to my mums so we put it down to teething and started giving him bonjela, medised and nelsons teething granules, it didnt help at all! so i tried everything for pain and teething, i.e nurofen, iced teething rings any other thing i could get from the chemist and home remedies and again nothing happened.
Overthe past 2 weeks it has got worse to the point now he hasnt slept more than about 1hr each night and isnt eating properly as it seems to hurt his mouth to put things in it, we are also having 4-5 hr periods in the day where he is literaly screaming non stop and is in consolable what ever anyone does.
Also i have noticed hes filling his nappy 5-6 times per day and its slightly looser than normal so i took him the the emergency dr's last night and was told it must be a slight case of gastroenteritus and basicly i was making a fuss. i think his nappys are due to his soya milk but theres not alot i can do about that as its the only milk that doesnt give him bad stomach cramps and the dietician said to keep him on it as hes usually fine. i was told to go to the hv and have a chat which i did and was told hes pushing the boundries and i should let him cry it out at night. which i cant do anyway as there is a house full of people who dont really need waking up and also i think its more than that as he seems so distressed.
Last night was the final straw when he went to bed really well at 7pm after a lavender massage and warm bath he had a warm bottle in a dimly lit room and went strieght off to sleep, only to wake at 11pm to which i managed to get him to sleep with a cup of water but then at 1am he woke and would not go to sleep.
No not to sound selfish but i suffer from Lupus and this sytress is making me ill which i really dont want as i cant look after him as well as i normally can so im not sure what to do, people have said its a phase or hes terthing he'll get over it or the other classic seperation angsiety which again i dint think it is as hes unsettled even when im holding him.
Basicly i have run out of ideas, its not easy to put into words how this is getting us all down, i have the support of dp but he works in a driving job and its not safe for him to be up all night then drive big lorrys around, and there my mum whos a great help but its not fair on her to go through this every night. and i know its not ds's fault as hes only a baby and i love him dearly but its got tot he point where i feel so beaten down its hard to get up and try to sort it out. can anyone please help?