Where has my happy smiley 9 month old DD gone??

[LittlebearH]

I dont know what is up with her.. Very whingy,clingy with me and DP. She wont let anyone else hold her for a second without bursting into tears.

Every time I leave the room she cries. All she wants to do is climb up me.

She has been like this for over a week now. I am pretty sure she is teething too.
She has a runny nose as well.

I thought she must be under the weather but I dont know anymore.

Will not play by herself either. Cries when changed etc.

She is like a different child.

Is this normal??? I am thinking of taking her to dr. But she doesnt have a temp.

Probably under the weather, but also this is the age when separation anxiety can kick in and it sounds like she is maybe suffering from that.

She's learning that you are a separate person to her and it is worrying her that you may go and not come back. Don't fight her behaviour - go with it. Just lots of reassurance, lots of cuddles etc. If you need to leave the room, tell her you will be back and then come back quickly and say "I told you I'd come back". She will get over it eventually once she realises that you aren't going to disappear.

Meg thanks. She is driving us crazy!

Hates sitting in her chair cries even when climbing (maybe frustration)

She hardly smiles these days. Just looks thoroughly p'd off.

I hope this is a phase that wears off quickly!!

The more reassurance you can give her the better, and try not to get frustrated (I know it can be hard when you have a limpet clinging to you and you need to do stuff!). It's nothing you've done to make her like this - it's just a developmental stage. This too shall pass, etcetera... :)

Do continue to keep an eye out for any illness as well, because a lot of this behaviour can of course be due to illness too.

Hi there, this sounds very familiar. My dd is almost 10 months now and is just coming out the other side of a very similar patch. I couldn't leave her for a second. Even my dh and mum wouldn't do.
However, in the past month or so she has had her top 2 teeth come through - to which I attribute most of the grizzling. She has also learned to crawl, cruise the furniture, wave and kiss. If all that was brewing in her little brain it's no wonder she was a bit all over the place! Her newest thing is shouting, all afternoon....headache....so I figure she's finding her voice and talking will be the next milestone.
I found just putting her in the baby bjorn and going into town helped distract both her and me, whilst still keeping her close. Hang in there, it'll pass soon enough :).

God Serendipity sounds just like DD!!

She is doing all those things. HV said her gums are very swollen and she may have a few teeth coming all at once. She currently only has one.

On top of this having to do controlled crying as she has always woken every 2 hrs after midnight. I never thought I would do it but at wits end and thank god it is working. She has been better today as she got almost a full night unbroken sleep.

My poor DD!!
Thanks for the info..will tell DP!!

Oh also dont forget that 9 months is major growth spurt time and my lo was def chugging the milk and 3 meals a day...sometimes def getting hungry in the night. So if you are doing cc just make sure she's not hungry otherwise it could make things even harder. Hope that helps!

Sounds perfectly normal to me. It will pass with time - clingyness can take a long time to pass, but it will if not pushed.

Thanks both.

I wish she was hungry...Found out today she has lost weight in last two weeks. She was 17lb 8 and now 16lb 15 Dropping her afternoon bottle some days and not others. She will take 2 oz sometimes and 7oz another time. No pattern to this at all. She is all over the place. Her meals are ok though. She has a very strong gag reflex. Not great with lumps and if not careful she will throw her entire dinner back up. This happened twice last week. I have caught it in what was an almost empty bowl!!

HV said not to worry just get more solids down her and add calories where I can. So if she drops a bottle give her a rusk or something.

There is always something to worry about...No wonder I am suffering with anxiety! :)

My children have not managed lumpy food till they hit 2 - well that was DS, I'm hoping DD (21 months) will be off puree by then. Maybe puree everything again to get more in her?

Hi

DD2 (11 months) has just hit separation anxiety - I'd forgotten the joys of the clingy stage, she won't even let me put her down to sleep. Which is very trying with another one to put down. Although fine to keep climbing stairs if I leave stairgate open. And, you're right, it tends to coincide with teething which just adds to the problems.

Hang on in there, it passes in due course. Soon, you'll have a nice smiley DD again (and, 2 years down the line, you might even have one who 'doesn't want mummy just daddy' - the joys of being a SAHM!).

Hope it sorts itself pretty soon - if it helps, they just get more and more gorgeous.

Ahh Lacking

I am sure you are right!!

She slept through the night for the 1st time ever last night. (had to do yukky CC) but she seems a lot less grumpy today!!