baby scared of her grandad!

[spiderfrog]

I maybe wrong but I think my 4 1/2 month old is scared of her grandad. Everytime I give her to him to cuddle she cries hysterically until I take her back. She is fine with other people. I just don't know what to do it's heartbreaking to watch. Any help/advice would be great.

My ds was the same with my db but he soon grew out of it and now at 3yrs he adores my db.

I think in our case it was because db was very wary to hold him (due to the fact he'd never held a baby before)

does your babies grandad have a beard I have heard alot of babies freak out when men have beards not sure why?

Sorry I've not been alot of help but I don't think there's a quick fix solution. Baby's go through many phases that they eventually grow out of.

Has he got a very deep 'loud' voice. That might upset her if she's not used to it.

Mine cried whenever dh took his glasses off!

He is a very big man with a deep voice and he wears alot of aftershave, I thought that might be the problem. I have just spoken to my DP and he tells me that he has seen his dad trying to calm our DD by making the same amount of noise she is when she is crying. The louder she crys the louder he crys. He also covers her face with her blanket apparently! Why my DP hasn't told me this before I don't know and when I asked him if he said anything he said no (angry). so no wonder she is scared. How am I going to solve this problem, without offending my father-in-law.

Could it be the aftershave? my dh reckoned DD didn't like his when she was tiny, so he stopped wearing it. Worth a try.

My dd was afraid of all men at that age, including her father, who got very offended upset about it! She's now 3 and is still hesitant around men sometimes, even those who she has known since she was born.

I don't think there's much you can do other than respect that she doesn't like something and not put her in that situation if it distresses her - grandad will just have to get over it, he is a grown up after all. :)