My 9 months old is OVERLY clingy, PLEASE HELP!!

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Since about 4 months she has been very attached to me but for the past 2 months or so she has got ALOT worse, to the extent that my husband can't even go near her without her screaming. She goes to nursery 2.5 days a week so she is used to being around a lot of people, she does get upset when I leave her but does calm down eventually. When she is left with my husband she cries and will not calm down at all, she can go on for hours We have a 4 year old son who is the complete opposite, she is ok around him most of the time. Sometimes I meet friends and everytime any of them go near her she cries.
My husband is really starting to get up set with the situation and I really don't know what to do and how I can help
Has anyone else gone through this? and advise would be great.
Thanks

sounds like hard work for you all - i think she just needs to gradually gain confidence and trust people, and to feel secure that you will come back. can you build up with just 5 minutes and then coming back, making sure you say goodbye so she trusts you will return?

My DD was like this. Just go with it, and time will sort it out. It will stop as suddenly as it started, and if she's like my DD daddy won't have to wait too long - will take longer with everyone else. I think if you force situations on her she's unhappy with it will slow the return to confidence down.

Assume she's OK going to nursery? Can you pull her out for a while, or send her to a childminder instead where it might be quieter?

9 months is a known clingy age.

Hello there. Wanted to say it's a developmental stage according to the book 'toddler taming' and will pass. try to help her feel as secure as poss.

This is perfectly normal, and called 'attachment', when she was a baby she may not have noticed you personally, just been happy to be fed and cuddled, but around 7-9 months, babies get very anxious (called 'separation anxiety') if their primary carer (you) go away from them, they have no way of knowing if you will come back.

I'm afraid that this is just normal, one of my two was very clingy at this age, and simply wouldn't go to anyone else, your partner just has to be big about this, and accept your dd will cry a lot when she's not with you. Some babies seem to cope better with nurseries than others, I have a friend who recently had to give up her part time job as her daughter (10 months old) just sobbed the entire time she was gone, even with granny caring for her. It will pass, but have a read about it on the internet to realise you haven't got a problem child, this is normal!