Sweetie connundrum

[ScummyMummy]

Day One:

2 small packs of sweets.

2 small boys (6).

Boy 1 grompfuls his sweets down in seconds flat with evident enjoyment.

Boy 2 savours every sweet slowly, slowly, very very slowly with evident enjoyment.

Day Two:

Boy 1 asks boy 2 to give him a sweet. Boy 2 refuses on the grounds that these are his sweets and Boy 1 has eaten his already. Fight ensues.

What should I do about this?

lolol

we have this

even worse - dd2 SAVES her sweets for later

boy 1 is in the wrong. Not boy 2's fault he does it differently - remind boy 1 that he could also eat more slowly.

Boy 2 is absolutely correct, and I don't think you should do anything at all other than reinforce that if Boy 1 eats all his sweets then they are gone, and that's an end to it - he can't have more than his fair share.

Ooh my sister always did this. We'd get something like a tube of Smarties once a week and I would eat mine straight away but she'd savour hers right through the week. Nothing you can do I'm afraid, the greedy one just has to learn to be less greedy

I have the opposite problem - dd1 eats hers fast, dd2 eats hers more slowly, then shares out with dd1 what she has left, so dd1 gets 50% more sweets ... but how can I tell dd2 not to be so generous?!

However, the next time it will be dd2 who gobbles hers and dd1 shares hers with her... so I suppose it equals out over time

dd1 went to youth club last night and came home with a packet of sweets, which she duly shared between me and dh, and wouldn't take no for an answer!!! My kids are weird

Thanks! That's a good consensus. Boy 2 is generally a bit more mealy mouthed about sharing than his brother so I get all confused about the rights and wrongs of the situation, especially if Boy 1 ups the anti by claiming that he shared his sweets with Boy 2 or, more sketchily, that he would have shared them with Boy 2 had he been asked, which he wasn't... I've decided we need a Firm Rule.

I tell mine to sort it out between themselves or they won't get any more sweets

hardcore Enid

you give your children SWEETS?

Well quite, Enid. I'm now savouring boy 2's rather nice caramel chocolates provided by their doting auntie, having said much the same thing to them at some ungodly hour of the morning when I couldn't stand the squawking any longer. I just wondered if there was an easier way!

lol jampots.

Im not a big sweet fan,I think they can cause more trouble than just fights[laugh]Sweets made my ds very hyper & he used to wake screaming in the night.He accepts very well at 8 yrs old that sweets are treats,then I try to find not too high suger ones. My dd on the other hand is not affected by sweets in the hyper way. But still do not give often at all. She has fruit sticks,fruit flakes,&raisins-which she thinks are all sweeties-wow its great. I dont have tantrums when we go in shops either as Ive never bought them just cos they asked. Am I a cruel mum? Bread sticks are good too.