Toddler shouting over me all the time - what can I do?

[petisa]

Hi,

My dd (2.6 years) has me at my wits' end shouting over me when I talk to her dad or friends who come to visit with their toddlers. Sometimes it's really bad and she shouts practically every time I try to talk to her dad. She's started to say "Mummy no talk papa" or "No mummies" as well when I'm talking to dp/friends.

I talk to her a LOT, and look after her full time, so I don't think she gets too little attention in general. I've tried explaining that mummy is talking to papa/friend, that she should wait, that I'll talk to her after, that we talk a lot but mummy has to talk to other people too (but she just says "mummy talk to me"!) and I confess I have shouted "DON'T SHOUT" at her when she has really gone on and on shouting loudly every time I try to open my mouth. She has a new little sister of 9 weeks and is still a bit jealous, but she did the shouting before dd2 was born too.

I'm just at a loss to know what to do about it - any ideas?? TIA!

Just a couple of things that might help.
Don't shout.
Give her time, she feels that she is competing for your attention with the new baby.

Tell her that if she has something important to say, she must say "excuse me" and wait for the person speaking to stop before you can give her your attention. Repeat this step 1000 times until it sinks in.

Thanks Dione for your good advice. She's still shouting a lot (tis driving me mad) but has made the effort to "use her quiet voice" today. She has tried to parrot "excuse me mummy" after me a couple of times today which was v cute, she finds it hard to say properly.

At least she's listening to you, which is really sweet and a testament to your relationship and parenting. Sounds like you've got a good'un, even if she drives you up the wall sometimes.
Good Luck.