DD being hit...

[meshellby]

Hi there, does anyone have any advice on what to do when their child is the one being hit by one of their friends? My daughter is 2 and a half and she has a little friend who it seems that whenever she gets frustrated with something (mummy saying no for example), she lashes out at my daughter. Her mum is always very quick to intervene and make her say sorry, and I really feel for the mum, but I'm getting a bit annoyed with it always being my daughter that gets hit and pushed around. I don't want them to not play with each other, we live in a small community and they have nursery together as well, but am not sure what I can do, I know many children go through a hitting stage, but my dd genuinely doesn't do that and I don't want to tell her to hit back! Two wrongs and all that....

I wouldn't tell her to hit back,she may start hitting first! A lot of kids go through a hitting phase-when my ds was just 2 he had a friend (6mnths older) who used to push,pull his face and hit. She's grown out of it now she's 3 but my ds has been through a phase of hitting and pushing,and so has another friends dd. As long as the mother is disciplining her and not letting it go I would be inclined to ride it out-another month or so and hopefully she'll have stopped.

In my experience, at least when the other child's mother is telling her off, it is a bit of a phase. In a few weeks it will be another child who is doing the hitting.

It's quite unlikely that your dd will never ever do it. My dd1 is very passive and sweet, unlike my dd2 I have to say, and even she did a bit of whacking at one point. It's just the only way they can get their point across at that moment.

I am having exactly the same problem! my DS is 20months old and his cousin is 25months and so its hard as its my partners sister so we cant exactly stop them seeing each other but her little boy pushes my DS over every time he walks past him, takes every toys he holds off him, grabs his face (once i couldnt get to them quick enough and my DS ended up with a blood shot eye where his nail had gone in his eye) and hits him on head with anything he can. Im so fed up and all other ppl say is 'they are just kids' but its not fair on my DS. I know pick my son up everytime he comes near him and this is working as a big hint to his mum as she doesn't really do much to stop it. But feel better its not your daughter doing the hitting as i dont know about you but id hate my DS to be the one doing it!

Its a very trying phase. If the parents are dealing with it will pass. Just means you have to hover like hawks over them (no relaxing coffee and chat damn) and leap when you see a hitting incident arising. Many toddlers IME go through this and in almost all cases its a passing phase and they end up to be lovely children. My dd did it for about 6 weeks when she was 18 months. Shes now a thoughtful 4 year old and would no more hit someone than I would.

Thanks ladies, will try and remain calm, those protective instincts do try and escape though!!