social services

[tandoori]

my child's development is fine and i don't wish to see the health visitor anymore.hv said we are getting refered to social services.we have been refered before but the case got closed.apparantly there are concerns but when asked what those concerns are she can't tell us.that's because there isn't any.she is doing it out of spite because we have finally decided to stop letting her bully us in to doing things we do not want to do.what can i do about this so that ss will leave us alone? im sure the case will get closed agin,but she will probably keep making lies up.

I told GP before dd was born that we wouldn't be requiring the services of a HV.GP was absolutely fine and arranged for HV to drop red book into surgery for me to pick up from there.No referral was made to SS and GP did all health checks and immunisations.

Tandoori, you are perfectly entitled to refuse any services offered by a Health Visitor and s/he has no right of access to your property. However in the last decade or so the Health Visiting service appears to have gone more from 'support' to 'surveillance' and in many cases a mothers refusal to co-operate immediately warrants a referral to SS. Demand to see your notes (you have a legal right to see anything and everything written about you under Data Protection Act although a 'reasonable' monetary charge can be imposed).

I have to agree with other posts, you do seem quite defensive, but I guess this is understandable if you feel hounded by the HV. Might it be worth meeting her on neutral ground and talking to her one on one explaining why you feel as you do and asking her what specifically she has seen to cause concern and trying v. hard to listen and not react defensively?

This situation is not normal.I have 6 dc and have had several HV. Since dc3, Ive not really had any contact with my HV, other than the visit after coming out of hospital when dc first born, and the odd weight check.
None of the HV have told me what to do other than offer advice if asked.Y
You are not required to continue to see a HV and she does not need to come to your house.
I agree, ask to see your case notes-do it under the Data Protection Act-you dont have to ask the HV. If SS come out, they must tell you what the concerns are.
If, the situation is as you say, and the HV is being vindictive, stand your ground. Send aa letter to her Manager where she is based, and say you will no longer work with this HV for personal reasons, you no longer require their services, and your GP will take ovet the care of this dc and the baby when it comes.
Then, write a letter of complaint to the Head of your Primary Care Trust and ask for your case to be investigated.
What did SS say the concern was last time they came out? What is your HV making you and your dh do? If you are able to say, then someone may be able to help you. HTH.

I have loads going on here, and I never get HV round not evena phone call.
What do SS say her concerns are when they visit? TBH they are pretty good at telling peopke why they are reffereed ime

I am also confused as to why you can't answer the simple question: what did the HV tell you to do that you refused to do?

Until you can answer that question, no one here will be able to help you.

You must know the reason for getting SS involved in the first place. I have never had anything to do with them and often people on here say 'you can't do that because SS won't like it,' as if I should be frightened.There must have been something to refer you in the first place.Until we have more information we can't help.

I would write to the practice manager and say that I would prefer to see the GP in future and opt-out of the HV service. Worth a try. For those who say that you can't see why the HV would be involved I would say it depends upon your HV, some are more laid back than others.