I am at the end of my tether with my DS aged 8.
He can be sweet and fun loving, but most of the time at the moment, and almost all the time when I'm around him, he is unacceptably rude and disrespectful. Even if I ask a very bland, how's it going type of question, he attacks me verbally, in a teenager type of way. If I ask him to to do something he swears at me or loses his temper completely. We're not a family who argue and we don't swear. I'm not expecting him to be angelic all the time or even any of the time, but don't think its too much to expect a basic level of civility. I'm starting to avoid asking him to do anything, and even avoid him generally, which is awful.
I love him dearly and I really need to nip this in the bud, but I feel I need some help to work out what I'm doing wrong. For my own sake I can't go on like this, its affecting my older DS, and the whole family. I know the "this too shall pass" maxim, and I've learned that its true with my older son, but this seems different.
Would I be able to get a GP referral to a child psychologist - is this the sort of thing I need?
Any ideas? Am very 
about my poor DS right now.