what age do kids put themselves to bed??

[GrumpyGit]

Just that really - at some point they must stop wanting to be tucked in, etc & just go off to bed... when is that??

DD is 9 and is now able to take herself off to bed. Akthough she likes being taken too.

If needed my 6 year old can go and get ready and then get into bed himself. I then go and give him a kiss. (Only do this if I am bf DC3)

9 yrs ish with DS1. He still likes a story sometimes and he's nearly 11 (weary sigh).

When I tell DS2 (20 mo) it's bedtime he very obligingly takes himself upstairs but unfortunately can't quite do his own bath or story yet :)

I get bored with it sometimes now TBH and DD is only 3!

Tehy may stop wanting to be tucked in, but I would never stop wanting to tuck them in. I go and pull up the duvet around my 11 yo and stroke his hair and he says "get off"

Me too lynette.

Be careful what you wish for.

I know, I know, I treasure it really - just started wondering after one of those evenings struggling to maintain some level of patience after a hard days work! Thanks guys - I shall try not to wish the years away :)

I'm still 'tucking in' a 14year old... she uses it as a quiet time for a chat if anything's bothering her and I quite like it ... sometimes it's only a few mins, sometimes longer... but she does all the 'rest' herself !!

I love that time of day when i put my DC1 to bed (5.3), we chat, read a story and i get to find out about his day. He is always far too busy to talk about school and his day at any other time. If i asked him i know he could get him self ready for bed and get himself in and turn his light out though but i wouldn't want him too. Think i'll be like Stricnine and still tucking him in at 14

Don't know what you mean by 'putting self to bed'. DC1 (now 3.4) would initiate the bedroom routine from about 2-ask for bottle, now simply say 'we go upstairs now'. He ask for naps specifically if tired, and all we do is open the stairgates for him-he goes upstairs and lies down on his own. He's getting a bit resistant now, but will still get into bed when his clock shows 9pm, choose how many stories to read, and then whether to have a bedtime kiss or hug depending on mood. He then either sleeps or just lies quietly until he nods off-no further requests of us once our usefulness has been expended.

I love the bedtimes too-partly because I have so little time to be alone with either of my kids-always at work or looking after both of them, partly because he always seems on such good form at that time of the evening, and mainly because it's nice to see him in control but also letting me help him. Think on this form it'll all stop by the times he's reading, and my life will be the poorer for it.

about 9

i now go to bed before ds(17) that is odd

and somewhat annoying if you want a sex life! [sock]

My DD is 8y and DH normally takes her up to bed. She likes it, and so does DH. They don't read stories these days but have a little chat togeher.

DD would be capable of taking herself to bed, but I can't see DD wanting it to stop anytime soon.

Similarly, although she'd e capable, I still tend to run a bath for her and help rinse her shampoo.conditioner with the shower head. On school residentials she does it herself and if she has a shower he does, but in the bath I will go in for a bit and we have a nice chat, etc at the same time.

I think this is more about behaviour at bedtime rather then what age they can 'take themselves off to bed'??