Telling strangers to go away

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Its so embarrising by DS almost 3 literally tells people he doesn't know (only Adults) to go away, gets silly rude and shy. How do I deal with this one?

Often happens in places he gets anxious like GP/Dentist/Hospital/library/unknown toddler groups

I wish I were 3 and could tell adults I didn't like the look of to go away.

Yes, it's embarrassing for you, but he's letting you know that the situation is stressing him out. Are these people coming up to your DS, or is he randomly going up to them?

ooh i have just posted on your other thread and now i am here too! ds1 is like that also!

i still don't know how to deal with it. so no help really sorry!

Thanks thisisyesterday!

LynetteScavo it tends to be only people coming up to us, perhaps asking someone for help or paying etc. He would be too shy I think to go up to them. But even if I pop into work and I'm chatting to staff and the atmosphere is light and upbeat he still gets stressed.....bit worried its not normal.

His speech is still quite limited and so sometimes he hisses at them!!
Gosh this sounds odd, should I be worried?

No, no, it doesn't sound odd.

I knew a little girl of this age who used to say, (almost growl) "get back". She turned out OK.

Some kids are shy. They learn to deal with it as they grown up. He'll probably always be shy, but as long as you don't force him into uncomfortable situations, and are aware that he will find parties etc difficult while he's young, he should learn to handle new people and situation in time.

Just wanted to say my DS does this all the time, esp in parks/soft play. What's awful is that he gets right up close to people and almost pokes them in the chest at the same time!
He's not shy at all, very confident and his speech is good.
I find it really embarrassing! I think it might be if people get into his space but then saying that, think he's been known to just go up to people. he shouts it at the top of his voice!
Will check this to see if anyone else has any suggestions.
The more you say 'Don't say that' - then he seems to!