Exasperated by 5yr old weeing......

[Kittykat13]

Hi, I hope you can help

instead of going to the toilet, my 5 year old boy has been weeing in his room or the corner of the bathroom.....and the fireplace!

I don't think he gives himself enough time to go, and I don't think he wants to get up and go in the night, but also I suspect he does it when he doesn't get his own way when it happens in the day.

I am getting exasperated he hasn't said anything about being scared of the toilet, and he's too big for a potty

Any tips would be much appeciated, thanks

OOoh - that's a bugger isn't it! Could you put down absorbent mats to at least absorb the smell/liquid?

We have had some trouble with apparently wilful pant-pooing and going back to basics ie. a chart and reward system has really helped.

Also, he's not too big for a potty in the corner of his room at 5. If you have a decent sized one he can use that - there's no shame in it. If he thinks he's too big for it, he can jolly well go to the toilet!

COuld you make him clean up his own mess when he does it during the day? Hand him towels and stand over him til it's all wiped up. Make it really hard work for him NOT to go to the toilet.

I would definately put a potty in his bedroom. As kids we had them in our rooms because we had no central heating so it was bitterly cold in the winter upstairs. Much better than a treck to the bathroom.

We naturally grew out of using them thru embarassment more than anything else LOL

Mothercare does a potty chair which is good for older children. We have one with a lid for DCs bedroom as one of them is too scared to walk to the look (across the hall!!) even if I leave the light on!

Thanks for all your help

I think I will definitely get a bigger potty - he might be cold and going in his room at night, there have been daytime incidents too (and pooing......that I hope was a one off)

I have made him clean it up once I realise what he was up to but yes, the reward chart I will try too

we have wooden floorboards and I don't know how to get rid of the smell

half term joy! he hasn't been doing this at school so I think partly he is winding me up

thanks for all your help

Re the smell - try a mix of biological laundry liquid and disinfectant (diluted). I was told about that when I was trying to litter train my new kitttens. Apparently it removes the smell so they won't return to the same place. We have wooden floors too and it worked (and on worse than pee!).

Can't help with the behavioural bit - sorry!

Thanks I shall try that to clean his room

it's a rented house so I'm worried about the smell, but it's not nice for him having a smelly room - fingers crossed there hasn't been any weeing for the last couple of days

thanks for all your help - the reward chart is up and I'm going potty shopping today