my 10 year old gets so anxious and is always saying he is ill

[jayw]

i have a 10 year old son and he gets so anxious. i lost my mum 2 years ago and they were close, he had counsiling and seemed to improve but just lately every morning he says this hurts or that hurts, and this weekend he was going on cub camp for one night and his dad was going as a parent helper, i had to go and pick him up after 8 hours cause he just kept crying. What should i do any sugestions are welcome..:(

Is it possible he's being bullied? Even with a parent helper present...most kids would still hate to be away from home if the other kids aren't nice...has he friends?

Sounds like anxiety? Could develop into panic attacks which are not nice at all.

Anixiety does make you physically ill so he could be feeling utterly rotten.

There are lots of things to try but it's often a long process to see what works for him.

Pilates and yoga are helpful

Seeing an acupuncturist
Seeing an osteopath who deals with areas like this ( ask - after 3-4 sessions a difference should occur if it's a suitable technique for your son).

CBT therapy
NLP therapy

Medication but I think it's worth testing out other methods.

Poor kid. I know it must test your patience but if you find the right method for your son - it can get better.

thank you for your replies, when my husband came home from the camp he said he thinks that he is copying my behaviour, i miss my mum and sometimes i cry there fore he thinks my son does this as an attention thing when i am leaving him .... make sense or not ????

It does make sense. The death of your mother could be causing him to react this way for various reasons. He does it for attention. He thinks this is how you show grief. Or he wants to be with you in case he loses you. Or he wants to protect you from hurt but as a 10 yr old not sure how.

Is it just for attention or is he genuinely distressed about something? Dunno how you find out for certain except to continue to monitor behaviour. But think I would look into a therapist - even if it's to talk him and perhaps you through your mother's death.

It could all settle down and just be one of those phases....

thank you for your sugetions i have managed to get some counsiling at school and we have had a heart to heart but i think it is going to be a long process xx