Dd2 is 22 months old and is a firecracker.
dd1 was a gina ford baby and still is a delight at 5. (slightly bossy and has a competitive streak)
ds is 3 next week and has alot of additional health needs, very chilled, only tantrums maybe 2-3 a week, can take him anywhere.
dd2, well on paper she is a good baby, she sleeps 12 hours a night and 2 hours a day. goes in her cot no complaint, eats everything and has a very good appetite, sits nicely at table, drinks out of open cups, doesnt throw food, counts to ten, has very good speech (as much if not more than ds) and a smile that melts people.
However she is such hard work. When she is good she is a delight, but whenever we are home, and about 80% of the time when we are out she demands my attention. must be on my lap, constant wiggling etc. if i go to do something she will just scream, and i mean scream. she has been clingy for a while, and i done the go with i option and just left her to cry when i had to, (toilet, dress ds, things that had to be done) i involve her with most things i can, but there are certain things i have to do alone!
However, i am now feeling resentment to her, as she is demanding so much of my attention, and she whines and screams for hours. even when i do cuddle her etc, she still whines and fidgets. i feel bad for dd1 and ds as they have to play with her screaming at them, or if i sit down to do dd1's reading/ homework etc i am constantly trying to juggle dd2 aswell.
i have started putting her in timeout when she is melting down for no reason but feel this isnt doing alot.
I feel at the end of my tether with her demanding ways and have no idea how to change her personality. she is such a delight when she is good, just wish that happened for more than 5 mins at a time.
off to my mums for abit, so will reply when i get back,
any advice will be great.x