Zero tollerance working but what do I do at own child's birthday party!

[ooooooeak]

We have had a little bit of pushing and biting (DS almost 3) and soft play and toddler group have always been the crime scenes!! I had been saying straight home if you bite or push and always carried through but what on earth do I do at his birthday party!?

Don't have it at a soft play centre or at a toddler group! That's what. Keep it small and calm.

teee heee :)
Well its a joint party and has a little bit of soft play......lots of structure I was thinking?? Is that even possible!

Take him up to his bedroom if at home, and out to the car or something if you have it outside the home. Tell your guests you'll be back shortly. They will understand - no-one wants pushy biter in polite company!

And it IS important to be consistent, everyone knows that. Perhaps pre-warn some of the people you are closest to so that they can take over running the party if you have to disappear, and hope that your DS is having a good day, and then all these plans will be unnecessary. It's good to have something in place, just in case though.

And don't be tempted to be soft on him just because it is HIS birthday party - that'll come back and bite you in the ass in the future.

Good luck, and best wishes for a happy and push/bite free day!!

Should add he is lovely too!

I agree with the time out to the car and pre-warning a close friend.

Good Luck!

Of course, ooooooeak, it just sounds like the situations you mentioned over stimulate him a little bit, and the pushing and biting is the result, but he STILL has to understand that it's not on, and that the easiest way to continue enjoying himself is not to push or bite.