Toddler 2.9 has lost it

[pamelat]

I know all about tantrums I can assure you, we have had more than our fair show but this has gone beyond that

We have an hour of screaming/hyper-ventilating with anger/crossness and general rage against the world

She has been lovely at nursery all day (although half the group are off with chicken pox)

She was lovely and chatty on drive home.

Got home (not hungry.not tired) and she melted down (see it all before) but it has escaled to something that I really dont know how to deal with.

Started with her being horrible to her 5 month old baby brother, nipped that in the bud but unlike her to be spiteful (for all tantrum moments)

Then she went a bit hyperactive and generally naughty, standing up and bouncing up and down on his jumperoo thing (never does this), I told her not to and she lauged and pretty much said she would do as she pleased (too bright for own good) and even said that I could not stop her because I had "baby X"

Decided to ignore her after telling off. DH late home etc .. anyway now full blown uncontrollable screaming, literally cant do anything with her.

She is shouting and shouting with a look of hate in her eyes at me for a best friend of hers who left nursery a couple of months back

She is now very very tired but I am shocked at how this has esclated and also at how cross I am with her

baby in bed half an hour or so ago so dont think jealousy related.

DC4 (so you can tell I'm experienced mom, here)is pretty mellow on the whole, even a 2y8m.

Last night he got pulled out of the bath early and tantrummed blue murder (HYSTERICAL high-pitched screaming) for about 45 minutes.

It's the age, I really think so. You just smile sweetly, don't let it get to you, drink a big glass of wine if necessary. Look for a distraction -- with DS it'd be a book on tractors or a Thomas the Tank Engine video.

Be interesting to see if she comes down with the chicken pox in the next week or so!

Good luck though!

I know it won't probably help but this is very familiar. My 2.10 month old has been going through the same thing most days for the last couple of weeks. It's exhausting and it makes me feel very sad. He also has a little brother who is 9 months.

I am going to just mark my place to see if there is any advice other than you just have to ride it out.

ps) she came down with the pox 3 days later!

I did wonder! Mine did the same before hand.