DS 5 can't make friends

[mamatilly]

DS just started Reception, insists on playing, sorry trying to play, with two girls who don't want him around (one of them liked him on day one i think), is rude to all the nice children in his class, he is basically a rude little s**t to other children, too bossy, and he doesn't have any friends,

What have I done? Shall I just leave him to find his own way through it all?How can I help him change? I have told him to stay away from people who are mean to him/dont want him around, he simply says "I will play with who I like,......." He acts like a teenager more than a little boy.

On the positive side, at home he is (mostly)lovely, he is very bright, great with numbers, can write and read bits and peices, amazing with lego kist, and sweet to his baby brother,

but social skills with other children are making him very unpopular and its awful to watch,

I really worry about my DS1 and making friends at school. HAve you considered making playdates with some suitable looking children and then when they are round 'organise' some activities and demonstrating / encouraging how they play together. Lego might be a good start.

I think this might be a whole new thing to worry about for the forseable future though!

I really worry about my DS1 and making friends at school. HAve you considered making playdates with some suitable looking children and then when they are round 'organise' some activities and demonstrating / encouraging how they play together. Lego might be a good start.

I think this might be a whole new thing to worry about for the forseable future though!

??? any more thoughts???

I would suggest helping him by having a child around to your house to play on a one to one basis. If necessary do some activity with them to see 'fair' play.

Social stories ?? I use them for my ds2 who is ADHD. He finds social graces tricky and needs reminding not to take charge or but into others games.