Need some advice pleases

[Dylthan]

My ds is 3 he'll be 4 in December. When he's with other children he copies them constantly!

He copies what they say and the way they act just everything.

It's starting to really annoy the other kids we were at a birthday party today and one of the boys from his nursery class asked why he kept coping them ds just looked at them and carried on the other boys then did whatever they could to get away from him it was hearbreaking to watch.

We've told him to stop and explained to him that the other boys don't like it but he just dosen't seem to get it.

How can we make him stop? And why is he doing this?

He is doing it to create a link with them and gain their friendship. Imitation is the biggest form of flattery. Unfortunately, he's going over the top with it but it does show that he's quite socially aware! He'll probably only learn by experience.

kids have to learn a certain amount of social conventions themselves, this is one I think. I hope it doesn't end in an violence!

Thank you. I can see that he's doing it to fit in however it's not working and he just can't seem to see it.

I just worry that he's going to end up being picked on and that's one experiance I really want to protect my Dc from.

I would encouge whatever he is good at...whatever it is that makes him special...drawing, singin, football...anything he excells at....and this may ingrain more self identity....give him confidence in himself as an individual.

Talk to him about himself and his own special personality...have him lie down on a sheet of walpaper and draw around his body, cut it out and let him decorate this life size portrait....have him talk about himself while he does it and reinforce his great traits.

Keep reminding him of what makes him....him!

He will grow out of it...they're weird little creatures at this age. My DD would not speak...at all...not one word sis she say in reception until suddenly she just snapped out of it.