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Domestic husband

10 replies

patz · 15/10/2010 19:38

Is it normal for my DH to take over in the kitchen whilst I surf the net. I'm not complaining at all but wonder if in fact I should be grateful and not take it as normal. He likes to potter, whilst I like to enjoy a glass of wine and chill on a friday evening

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Othersideofthechannel · 15/10/2010 19:41

Interesting choice of topic!

Lynli · 16/10/2010 14:45

Define normal.

It is not usual in my household, unless I am sick.

But why would it be ok for him to sit and surf while you cook and not the other way around?

ByTheSea · 16/10/2010 14:48

Normal. My DH potters domestically a lot and I like it.

TanteRoseFromTheDead · 16/10/2010 14:50

Here's what sounds weird to me...the part about your DH "taking over" the kitchen..

surely the whole "kitchen is women's territory" is old fashioned now?

does he not usually cook/clean etc.?

Sobha · 18/10/2010 11:43

if you are both happy with this - then dont worry. i have friends where the husband does most of the cooking whike the wife does other things. its a partnership - however the roles are divvied up.

AdelaofBlois · 18/10/2010 15:21

Are you both in employment? If not, Friday in particular seems a great night for him to do this-gets him back into home life for the weekend, and you can connect a bit with the outside world.

That said, I went mental when I was staying at home and DP stacked the dishwasher. If the home was my job, why take away one of the few things that wasn't child-centred from it? Is that what you menat by 'taking over'?

ouchthatssore · 18/10/2010 15:33

Huh?

DH frequently cooks/washes up/puts laundry on while I surf the net/watch TV/read the paper.

And vice versa.

Yes, you should be grateful when he cooks for you. Just as he should be grateful when you do something for him. No more, no less.

wannabeglam · 18/10/2010 19:25

Treasure him!

GingaNinja · 19/10/2010 14:22

God you lucky thing! Where do I find one?

Can trade you old-fashioned domestic and emotional illiterate dinosaur if you'd prefer?

RoxieP · 19/10/2010 14:33

My boyf seems to do a lot more housework than me - but it actually leaves me feeling very guilty and inadequate! I am 28 weeks preg, but I feel fine so I've got no excuse! He just seems to get on with it whereas I'll procrastinate on the sofa thinking of all the things I need to be doing, and by the time I have got up to do it, he is doing it/has done it! Oh well, I suppose we should just learn to enjoy it? Why do us women feel so guilty when someone else does something for them? I have never met a man who does...

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